[Moutushi]

Assalamu alaikum.
In suraNoor ayat 26 Allah says: " Vile women are for vile men, vile men are for vile women; and good women are for good men, and good men are for good women"
Does this ayat mean that if a woman is of good character , she will get a spouse of the same nature and same in case of a man of good character? OR does the above mentioned ayat means otherwise?
Many times we see that a good woman get a husband of bad character.. so how can we understand this matter in accordance with quranic verse?
Please can anyone help me?
Zagakallahu khair...

[talaniman]

It takes time and interaction to know the true nature and character of an individual, or to know if you can even deal with each others flaws which all humans have.

[Fr_Chuck]

It means they should be. But often because of issues of arranged marriage, marriage for position, and other issues of family acceptance. This does not happen. So the writing, is that it should be.

[CravenMorhead]

When I was younger and living as a young man does I had a conversation with a gentleman. He had said that you the type of woman you get depends on where you find them. If you're wanting a good woman then you look for them in a good place, church for example. If you want a vile woman, then you will find them in a vile place, a night club for example.

I don't prescribe to this wholely but I believe this is some wisdom there and it is reflect in that passage from the Qur'an. A good man and a good woman will do good things and be in good places. Vile women and Vile men will do Vile things and be in Vile places. So if you're looking for a good man you should be a good woman and be in good places. It makes sense but it only makes sense on paper.

The problem is in reality this rarely happens. It isn't just good and vile but a entire range between the two. A person can be 10% vile and 90% good, or 20% vile, 50% neutral, and 30% good. What you see of good women with vile men is probably a missmatch where the man is more vile then the woman. They don't match. They don't need to either, it is up to the couple.

What you need to understand in my opinion is that there is no person who is all good or all bad character. Everyone is a mix of good and bad. The husband you get will depend on where you're looking and how well you know the person who could be your husband. Then you decide if he is a good man for you. What you seen in other couples as a good woman with a bad man might be a good coupling for them and work for them. I have seen in in Canada where I live.

If you want a more islamic perspective on this, I would suggest talking to your Imam. If you can this is the best resource for you.