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    Apr 16, 2007, 11:50 PM
    Why would ex contact me?
    I broke up with my ex girlfriend 3 years ago... she moved to another town shortly thereafter. We had a history of on again off again... I loved this woman with all of my heart.. but she drained me emotionally with her jealousy and insecurity and life problems.
    We said our goodbyes... and I went through.. as much healing as I could... and frankly I am still healing from it. One year later she sends me a letter... I did not open it. To me no contact means no contact. Last Christmas she shows up on my door step... for a split second I wanted to run to her... but then I asked... "Why are you here?"... She said that it did not feel right just walking by my house. I thought... " You Chose to walk by my house"... I was at a complete loss for words... she said.. " I thought I would stop by like we were friends"... to which I replied... " but we are not friends"... I just do not understand why she would do this... breaking up with her devastated me... in the past she would always send mixed signals when we broke up... like callling me or leaving gifts in my mailbox... or putting herself in my way.. or having a reason to stop by my house. I saw this visit as more of the same... so in the end I told her that I would appreciate her not writing or calling or coming by any more. Why would she behave this way?
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    Apr 17, 2007, 12:01 AM
    Its difficult to say why she is acting this way, however you know the score and your actions are wise enough to concentrate on yourself because you know how hurt you where.
    I would keep going to way you are.
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    Apr 17, 2007, 06:01 AM
    As you said, this is the way she acts, and your not going for it any more. Good choice.
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    Apr 17, 2007, 03:06 PM
    Talaniman Thank you... I agree... That's exactly what I thought at the Time... "I am not dancing with you (her) any more"... I think her visit was more about her than it was about me... I have no idea what she needed... before she left... I told her that "You did not have a clue...you have NO idea how much I loved you.....you drained me" When I said those words the expression on her face was as if I slapped her.
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