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Kman00 · Apr 26, 2015, 02:59 AM

Hey is it wrong for a 16 yr old boy to be dating a 13 yr old girl I am wondering due to because the 16 yr old is my own cousin and the 13 yr old is like my sister she is not by blood but she has been there for me no matter what and I'm just trying to be like a friend or a brother and protect her from my cousin because he likes to mess with girls feelings and stuff like that and she don't know that even though how many times I told her and for the fact the 16 yr old is getting nudes from her now and I know that against the law because I looked it up and its starting to get worse because the 13 yr old is staring to develop feelings with a short time notice they only have been together for like more than a week or 2 and the 13 yr old is sending nudes to the 16 yr old to me it's a cowered move to even be dating the 13 yr old for the fact me and my cousin(16 yr old) are like the closes of kin and he promised me he would never date the 13 yr old(girl my sister in a way but not by blood) and she has a messed up past and stuff and I'm just trying to protect her so it won't happen again... but any ways I'm just looking for help and people that have well experience with this kind of stuff and I need really wise answers because I'm going to my school here soon and telling them so he can get in trouble with this because the 16 yr old is so badly messing with her feelings and getting the 13 yr old to do things I know she would not do... Please comment I need the best advice I can get

J_9 · Apr 26, 2015, 03:09 AM

If she is sending nude pictures he is viewing child pornography, that could land him in jail for a while. It could also label him as a sex offender for the rest of his life.

So, in answer to your question, yes, this is wrong. You need to tell your parents about this as soon as possible.

talaniman · Apr 26, 2015, 04:02 AM

I will agree that a proper adult should be told what's going on, and there could be trouble for both of them, but not telling would be a lot worse for your friend. As you said, she is in genuine danger from this boy predator.

You have tried talking to her now you have to let the adults handle this.

ScottGem · Apr 26, 2015, 04:20 AM

Your question should have been is it wrong to send nude photos. Asking if its wrong for a 16 yr old to date a 13 yr old is a little hard to answer because it is a subjective decision. In my opinion 13 is too young to date period! But the decision of whether to date or not is up to the child's parents. A three year difference is on the edge for teens And it would be a rare situation where it would be OK.

But you have introduced another element into this. First, his asking her to send him nudes is illegal. But her agreeing to is also a major problem. It could mean that she is sexually active or shortly will be. And that's another major issue. I am curious as to how you know about the photos.

You need to talk to your parents who can then talk to his parents. They need to stop this or he could wind up in jail. Or your friend could wind up pregnant, which could also get him in jail.

Homegirl 50 · Apr 26, 2015, 07:37 AM

This whole thing is messed up and the parents of both of them need to know what's going on.
Tell them!

Jake2008 · Apr 27, 2015, 04:10 AM

I would report him, absolutely. To her parents, to his parents, to the school. The school particularly should be aware of any direct (legal) action that can be taken. This 13 year old needs protection from herself, as much as she needs protection from the 16 year old boy.

It seems to me that she is sending nude pictures, and that would be considered distributing porn would it not? That she sends it to him, and then he passes it on, would also be distributing porn. I'm not 100% sure on this point, but her choice to send nude pics would probably get her in a lot of trouble. It isn't likely a 16 year old boy, in my opinion, would hesitate to send it to his male friends.

While you can, and most likely will, do what you can to protect this 13 year old, once you have reported it, it is out of your control. There comes a time when you are directly trying to protect someone close to you, that you have to step back, and realize you've done enough. I admire you for stepping up, and you'll never regret doing the right thing.

Best of luck to you.