Do I have a right?

Kezzy5 · Mar 16, 2015, 01:14 PM

Something gone on with my mum and they just said she really ill, but they won't tell me the whole story and I can't see her or ask her. When I ask they just say to drop it! Why can't they tell me I have a right?

Precious7 · Mar 16, 2015, 01:32 PM

Hi Kezzy
Can give us little more information, that would help us to answer your question more accurately. Who are ''THEY''. Is she in hospital? What exactly happen. When and how did you found out that something gone wrong with your mom. As it will help us to know more clearly about your situation.

ma0641 · Mar 16, 2015, 05:28 PM

You are a minor and unfortunately you don't have a "right" to your mothers records. Is there no adult person? Does your mom have any advanced health care directives?

J_9 · Mar 16, 2015, 06:24 PM

Kezzy, I am sorry that your mother is ill. I'm sure that is very hard on you considering all of the other issues you are facing. However, since you are a minor, your family can include you in as much, or as little, as they feel is necessary for you to know. You have no legal rights as to the nature of her illness, or the treatment.

Kezzy5 · Mar 17, 2015, 12:20 AM

Okay thanks, and yeah my aunties are keeping me out of it and nan won't tell me neither and no mum not in hospital but her and dad are out of town for a bit. Frustrathung that I keep getting left out of the loop. They just say that mum needs a few days. But I don't know why? Hopefully they will fill me in soon. But thank you.

Fr_Chuck · Mar 17, 2015, 02:48 AM

No, there is no "right". From the legal side, which is where rights come from, it is the opposite, that she has the right to privacy, and unless she wants to let know, there is no right.

I am sorry, do you not talk to your mom, while she is away?

Precious7 · Mar 17, 2015, 08:46 AM

Oh, I see. I hope you get to talk to your mum soon.

Jake2008 · Mar 17, 2015, 09:03 AM

For younger children, to say mom is ill, is enough usually, to satisfy a small child's concern. Mom isn't well, means nothing particularly important or deadly to a very young child, but maybe she has a headache.

To an older child, or a child where it would be appropriate to give more information, is very important. To only know that something is seriously wrong, and be completely without answers, only adds to the worry and the imagination.

You sound like you are at least able to understand more of what is happening to your mom, even without all the detail. At least enough to know that she is, or isn't, seriously ill, or enough information to know that she is seeing a doctor, or going to a clinic, or taking steps to be healthy again.

That would tell you that nobody knows for sure what is going on, and maybe that is the case here. To speculate, or guess as to what the problems are, would only be worse for you, and no doubt they are protecting you from, literally, the unknown.

I think that is appropriate for them to do. Why not just consider that there is far too much unknown, that cannot be explained, rather than everybody but you knows exactly what's going on.

Whatever the news is, you will know soon enough. Try not to dwell on what you don't know, and assume that in time, you will be told.