[phoebebuffay]

There was a guy in school who followed me for 1 and half years. I liked him too. But neither of us had a nerve to tell each other the crush on us. After joining college I started talking with him through fb. He got my number. I came to know during he proposed to other girl and they were committed. So there was no room left for me. For some reason they broke up. Lately I started to have strong feelings for him. Eventually I proposed him. He said that he likes me so much. But no love and that he doesn't deserve me. But he calls me daily and talks and tells his everydaytasks. He talks with his ex too. And he started telling everyone from the school that I proposed him. Everyone makes of fun of me. Whenever I am not talking he tells that he misses me a lot. I undergo so much pain talking with him growing obsessed why doesn't he love me.. is there any chance that he will love me? Should continue talking with him? He is insulting me so much. Bt the love I hve for him makes me overlook it. What should I do? I'm very confused for about 4 years. Help me please..

[odinn7]

This is going nowhere and all it is doing is causing you pain. You already know the answer of what you should do.

[Fr_Chuck]

I will assume this is not America, but a place where culture is different, since on one would ask marriage of a person they have not dated or have discussed this more.

He asked someone else, not you for marriage, has told you he does not love you. You need to stop talking to him, and move on, to find someone else.

[talaniman]

When love blinds you to the rather obvious flaws in a persons character, then its not love but misguided attraction. Since he said he doesn't love you then it's a misguided one way attraction that cannot bear any fruit. All of your confusion should have been cleared up for good when he brought shame to you publicly, and shown he isn't even a good friend.

Leave him alone, and tell him to leave you alone, and waste no more time on confusion, and false hope.

[Oliver2011]

College? I would have guessed middle school. Too much game playing for this to grow into a relationship.

[joypulv]

Why would someone propose to a crush, someone who has given no indication of strong feelings of love and caring?
Yes, you sound very young and naive.
If someone says he doesn't love you, try to imagine someone else telling you he loves you - someone you like but could never be attracted to or have love for. There must be several.
IT ISN'T GOING TO HAPPEN!

[Jake2008]

You can't overlook bad behavior. In my opinion, a male gossip is the worst kind of gossip. Even more to consider is the fact that the guy is a flake.

This is not love in any way, shape or form. IF you were to 'get him' in your life, you are still stuck with a man of questionable character.

If that appeals to you, go right ahead and keep allowing him to treat you with no respect.

[Wondergirl]

What exactly does this mean, "I proposed him"? I see this so often now. In the US, it means "asked to marry." It apparently doesn't mean that elsewhere, depending on the person's country of origin.