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    Feb 17, 2015, 08:59 AM
    Who impregnated me?
    Hi, I'm 15. In October 2014 I had an affair with my boyfriend. I had intercourse with a guy on October 5th 2014, I was on my period, and we didn't use protection, and he said he ejaculated in me. My period came again 4 weeks later like usual. A couple days after I had an affair my boyfriend and I had sex without protection and he ejaculated in me every time we had sex. We had sex for weeks not every day but maybe twice a week I then found out in December that I was 4 weeks pregnant. It's most likely my boyfriends, and not the other guys, right?
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    Feb 17, 2015, 09:05 AM
    There is no way to know who the father is until the baby is born and you have a DNA test done.
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    Feb 17, 2015, 09:10 AM
    I understand you wouldn't be able to know for sure, but which is more logical? Which do you think it COULD be.
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    Feb 17, 2015, 09:14 AM
    It doesn't matter what we think. What matters is what the DNA test results are
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    Feb 17, 2015, 09:27 AM
    If you had a regular period at the end of October after your October 5th encounter, then it is unlikely that encounter resulted in pregnancy, though not impossible.

    My question is do you understand that:
    1) your boyfriend could go to jail?
    2) you are risking your health and the health of the fetus by becoming pregnant so young?
    3) that you have to find a way to support this child?
    4) that your childhood has ended, you will no longer be able to hang out with friends or do the things a normal 15 yr old does because all your time and energy will be devoted to caring for this child?
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    Feb 17, 2015, 09:32 AM
    There is no logic in sex. Just speculation until you find out the facts. FACT is you are pregnant and the father will be unknown until the baby is born and a test is done. What you tell everyone else in the meantime is up to you, but the logic is in the truth, which you don't know yet.

    So will you be truthful or not with the possible baby daddy's? Or your parents for that matter?

    What was the logic of having unprotected sex at 15? What was the logic of cheating?
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    Feb 17, 2015, 05:02 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by aliveea0804 View Post
    Hi, I'm 15. In October 2014 I had an affair with my boyfriend. I had intercourse with a guy on October 5th 2014, I was on my period, and we didn't use protection, and he said he ejaculated in me. My period came again 4 weeks later like usual. A couple days after I had an affair my boyfriend and I had sex without protection and he ejaculated in me every time we had sex. We had sex for weeks not every day but maybe twice a week I then found out in December that I was 4 weeks pregnant. It's most likely my boyfriends, and not the other guys, right?
    How was it determined that you were 4 weeks pregnant in December? Have you had any ultrasounds? If so, when and what were the results?
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    Feb 17, 2015, 05:17 PM
    This scares the crap out of me! You're 15, pregnant, and you don't know who the daddy is. Where are your parents?

    You say you had a period after cheating on your boyfriend with the other guy. Are you sure it was a period? Many women bleed during pregnancy and mistake it for a period.

    How did you determine that you're 4 weeks along? Did you determine that just by your last period which may not have been a period?

    Ultrasounds can be off by 2 weeks either way, that's a month in total. In other words, the only real way to know who the daddy is is a DNA test after this baby is born.

    Right now I think you have bigger issues to deal with than figuring out who the father of your child is. I mean really, if they're 15 too, it's not like they're going to step up and be a father. Based on the fact that you were cheating I'm guessing they really only were interested in one thing, which they both got, repeatedly. If they're older than you (depends on the laws where you live) then they could end up in jail, which means no child support. If they're both the same age as you, what are you going to do, ask for child support from a child that can't even legally work in most places?

    I would concentrate on what you're going to do about this pregnancy. You have three options, one is running out fast and that's abortion. If you're going to abort you have to do it soon, after the first trimester (12 weeks pregnancy) abortion is illegal in most places. Your other options are adoption, or having and raising the child. You need to think about that and worry about paternity later, if you have this baby.

    Good luck.
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    Feb 17, 2015, 05:25 PM
    Got to spread the rep around Alty, because you make some very important points that I am sure she is neither thinking about or even considering at this moment. I doubt the full reality has set in. Particularly because of her age. It wouldn't for many adult women in this situation. And she is far from that right now.

    She NEEDS to get the DNA test because its important to get the right person for a number of reasons. Not just support, but for medical history where it might be critical to know the family medical history of the real birth father.

    Basically ONE of them is colon cancer....they won't even screen for that until 50. But if members of the family have already had it....50 might be way too late to start. Then there is Diabetes, Heart disease etc....and a long list of other things.

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