[Victoria95]

I am a full-time student, and I also have two part-time jobs, but I am desperate. I have entertained the thought of becoming a Sugar Baby. I'm worried about any future consequences that can happen as a result of creating a amount. I don't want future employers, friends, family members, or my parents discovering the account. A lot of employers look online now to learn about their employees.

[Wondergirl]

Desperate how? why? There are ways to fund college without becoming a Sugar Baby.

Dr. Phil did a show on this very recently. It's not a good idea and will come back to bite you in the butt. Don't do it.

[Fr_Chuck]

It is a growing trend, of young college girls to get a older man to fund their education in exchange for certain return favors. In fact it is not really that near, it happened some in the 70's when I was in college. Plus I know several girls that were dancers or strippers to pay for college.

There is no way to keep things secret, if it is posted on the internet. If you do it, finding a older rich man, off line would be best and not having any proof of it,

As for as coming back, it depends on society view points, your morals, and the morals of your family, friends and future work places.

Your sexual history may not even be a concern but then it may at some places.

I see students at university regularly trading sexual favors for better grades, but then that is more secret with little proof. The values of society are changing, how this will effect your future is unknown

[Jake2008]

I think you will regret this for the rest of your life.

Right now, it might seem like a good idea, with the result being assistance financially with college. But at what cost.

If you're smart enough to attend college full time, and carry on two jobs at the same time, you are smart enough to find alternatives to this temporary financial crunch.

Mind you, you didn't say why you were 'desperate'- I'm assuming it is for financial reasons, which is why you're willing to have sex with an older man in exchange for money.

Have you gone to your student union, or the administration of your college, or banks? We are already near February, and there are only a few months left of school- maybe a temporary loan from family? Surely there are women's organizations within the college that can help or refer you to emergency financing.

I don't know why you cannot contact your parents if things are really this desperate. To get this far only to have a sugar daddy pay your way for sex, really seems a bit much particularly when you have likely alternatives.

To give yourself away to a man with means to help you financially, is not the way to go. An easy alternative maybe, but again, at what cost.

Maybe there is more to this story?

[Cat1864]

Right now you have control over what you do and who you do it with, do you want to give up control over your life for what appears to be security? I ask this because the fact that you want to keep it 'secret' gives unscrupulous people material to blackmail you into doing what they want. How would you handle someone telling you to do their bidding or they will tell your family? If you think you can choose someone who wouldn't do that, keep in mind that by the time you know a person well enough to know what they might or might not do it may be too late.

If you do engage in sex with the person, are you prepared for the possible consequences? Diseases? Pregnancy? If you think that birth control will protect you, it may not. All contraceptives do is lessen the chance of pregnancy. Even vasectomies have a failure rate and some men do lie.

Last but not least, how would your perception of yourself change? If you cannot go into it with your head held high, not announcing what you are doing but not hiding from those who might find out, then you probably should not do it. If you will end up hating yourself, walk away from the idea.

[talaniman]

If your situation is desperate now financially, it will be much worse when you are financially dependent on a person who gives money. No telling what they will make you do for it. Desperate people make bad, desperate decisions that never work for them.

Tricking yourself out is not a good solution. Why are you so desperate in the first place? Hard work ain't easy but keep working hard and eventually it gets better.

[joypulv]

Supposedly the men are rich and successful and not likely to be some combination of weird, demanding, or rapist. (Sugar Babies in theory aren't providing sex, only eye candy.)
BUT how is anyone to know the man you connect with is not any of those things?
The site vets them? Give me a break.
A nice dinner in an expensive restaurant? Cheaper than most hookers.
Despite the ones on Dr. Phil (I have seen 2), you don't know how many end up raped, hurt, or dead.
These are total strangers!!

As for your future, no one is even going to believe that you weren't prostituting.

If you still do it (this feels like advising teens too young for sex about birth control), please have a security network set up with good friends who know where you are and with whom at all times.
Get Robin McGraw's app with the secret button for calling for help on your phone.
Disguise your self a bit with a wig for pictures, and use a fake name.

Keep in mind that you have to have a pretty good knack for getting MORE than a nice dinner out of a man. Takes a lot of guts and fake charm, and cleverness too. You have to look good too, and that takes an initial investment in skimpy evening dresses that are tasteful and sexy but not slutty. Are you really ready for all that?

[catonsville]

In addition to what has already been said, there is also a chance you will wind up being handed around and sugar baby to many. Bad Move, don't do it.,

[Alty]

Obviously you have reservations about doing this, otherwise you wouldn't have posted your question here.

What are you reservations? Why would you not want anyone to know that you're doing this? Ask yourself these questions, be honest with yourself, and you'll likely figure out what to do.

Personally, if I decided to do something that I wouldn't be comfortable with my family knowing, I wouldn't do it. Their opinion about me means a lot, and their opinion has been instilled in me as well, meaning I have the same opinion. I wouldn't be comfortable doing something that I myself don't feel comfortable doing, and the way your question reads, you're not comfortable with this.

For me a sugar baby is nothing but a glorified hooker. She prostitutes herself out for money. Sex may not be involved in some cases, but most of the time it is. Men don't give large sums of money just to chat with a girl, or hang out with her. If you're not putting out, you're not going to get the money. Just because they're paying for your education doesn't make you less of a whore, imo. So can you live with that?

Forget about who can or will find out, think about how you will feel doing this.

[dontknownuthin]

You do realiz that sugar babies are prostitutes, right? Often the old men they work for have weird fetishes or are abusive. ThInk the through. There are far more older women than men. If a man is wealthy and successful and established, he has to be pretty weird if he can't find sex and companionship without payibg for it.