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    Dec 29, 2014, 07:35 PM
    Dating a sociopath! Help!
    It all begun on March 11, being at the wrong place at the wrong time. I asked my friend to meet for a drink, and boom the minute I get to the bar, there stood the most beautiful, stunning woman I've ever laid eyes on. I asked my friend who is this girl? She replied, she's the new bartender, her name is Karina, and she's from Venezuela the same country your from. Okay, so right away speaking to her we had an instant connection and she came to hug me all happily to meet someone from her country. So she asked me to have dinner with her after work, and I stuck around and we went to the restaurant next door. I'm a girl whose into girls, and I know this woman is clearly straight so even though I'm completely smitten I know limitations. But we exchanged phone numbers and text each other occasionally.

    A few weeks later after work, I came by and asked her to hang out and she resisted but then we ended going for drinks in the city, Her conversations were so smooth and very intellectual, and said to me that night " I don't believe in lying" and I laughed that everyone lies... And she said " not me". I almost wanted to believe that so bad. We ended up making out and she said she's curious but we will take it slowly because she needs to get to know me. Okay so I was going a bit more frequent to the bar, to chill with friends, and she seemed too perfect, blending in my personality, just overall knows what to say, super charming. After work we would make out, for a few , then she heads home. She lived out here solo from Venezuela she told me, she's out here trying to pursue a career as an actress. Dumb me didn't know what the few months were going to entail. So pretty much complained about not making enough to support herself, so I gave her a decent amount of money at the bar so she'll feel accomplished and happy.

    A few weeks later I was coming to the bar and she told me " I'm getting back with my boyfriend " and I said okay, thank you for telling me, I don't think it's a good idea. She agreed, but one night calls me drunkenly and we made out like our lives depended on it, so I felt she liked me. She said to me she's unhappy with boyfriend. I said I don't understand why you would get back, because they care for each other. And she's very close with his family, she considers them her family.. And it was more for a friendship. Okay I don't know why I bought that bull.. But in my head I'm like this will be just for fun. Her birthday came up and we went out to the city with one of her friends where I went out of my way to give her a perfect gift, one that she'll love and cherish. So for the whole month I treated her like a rockstar, gifts every week.

    So she gets fired from this job a few months later and she called me to let me know, I tried to be supportive and told her I was going to help her get a new one. Then she told me she slept with some guy, how she got high and it just happened. Then just kidding. Lies. Her friend came and told me that she was married to the boyfriend for papers and red flags come up like whoa! I suddenly began to back away a little, and we were arguing a lot but kept assuring me that he wasn't important, and that was it with them, they never really had sex. There's no real emotions involved. Lies. Ok she confessed sleeping with this guy and it was true. Definitely now keeping my distance. But she always have a way of reeling me back in and making me feel sorry for her to give her money. I don't know so one day she blocked me on her phone because she got into a dispute.

    So I let a month pass then I went to her other job to tell her I was sorry, bad idea. I just became her ATM afterwards. She told me she didn't have money cause she moved in a new spot with her two friends, and she didn't have money for a TV or bed. So gave her a good amount. Then a week later complains all is done, meanwhile we still have not slept together or never got intimate just make outs. She quits her other bartending job she had for 2 months not even, then I guess had me to rely on for a little bit, and told me this whole story about her missing her family in Florida, and she wants to go visit. Okay I said I could get you a ticket, she told me to make it one way she wants to spend a lot time and who knows maybe she'll stay. But she won't because she loves me and she'll miss me too much. Ok done. I went to Mexico with my friends for a week came back she told me she's broke.. Deposit some cash into her account... So now I found through Instagram I've been duped! She moved in with her boyfriend in Orlando, because this guy is my friend on Instagram. And when I confronted her she denied it and blocked me, and unblocked me to try to make me feel guilty for false accusations. This hardcore!. But that not all, she makes up lies on top of lies that she's with her cousin thinking am stupid. I now I laugh but it hurts really bad, and she still thinks we're cool by the way. Even knowing all of this , it's hard to block her.
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    Dec 29, 2014, 07:47 PM
    That is not the description of a sociopath. She's a user, that's all. You fall for people too easily, and she saw it. It takes TWO TO TANGO!!!
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    Dec 29, 2014, 09:46 PM
    You are a glutton for punishment, and she is a punisher, not a sociopath.
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    Dec 29, 2014, 10:09 PM
    I agree not a sociopath at any level. The issue is, you picked a type of girl, who likes to use people. First of course she is not completely straight, or she would not be making out with you. She seems like she will go , as far as it takes, to get what she wants.

    She uses people, and you allowed yourself to be used.
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    Dec 29, 2014, 10:12 PM
    Maybe you need to stop meeting women in bars. None of them have worked out in your favor.

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