[haze06006]

Long story, I will try and squeeze it down as much as I can. Me and my partner got together, all was good. I got pregnant early into the relationship, it was mostly good, we had arguments about things, and had lots to work on at this stage. (I didn't think it was anything to major) We were living together, however for various reasons we had to move into our own places, I moved towns with my kids 40 minutes away, and he remained where he was in a boarding position working.

Over the months or so he was driving over regularly (most weekends) for the most part of it, but then communication slowly dwindled down, he didn't text back much, didn't Facebook message and really didn't show much interest. About 3 Months ago, his work contract ended, and I became aware our relationship was rocky, and I was under the impression we were working it out. That was OK, he was coming over a lot, until I found out that he had moved towns and had been lying about it for about a month. I knew the person he had moved houses with and I made it clear I was not happy about what happened. I wanted to continue working on the relationship, but he refused to move, or make any attempt to put things right. It fell over from there and turned nasty. I also had my problems, I was verbally abusive, and nasty most of the time, Via text messaging which was a big reason why the breakdown happened in the first place as well as plenty of other things.

About one month ago he got kicked out of the house he was staying at, as he was sleeping with the lady's daughter who took him in. He claims he loved her, she was his soul mate blah blah blah. He had no where to go, so I have let him into my home, we have been acting like a couple, the intimacy is there, but not like it used to be. Everything is changed, I can't look at him the same, he doesn't kiss me the same. I am still in love with him, but it is slowly dying. He doesn't love me at all (back to the trying to work it out stage)

So what do I do?? I want my man back :( I want what we had back.

[talaniman]

You better find out what he wants besides a place to stay and free sex. You will never get back what you had, but maybe you can build something going forward. I don't know. You did get THIS man back, he is with you, but you are at the now what phase, and have to either work together and figure out what you BOTH want, or he finds somewhere to go.

Define the commitment, or lose the convenience. Maybe you wanted someone and you really didn't know him. Now would be a good time to see what you got. I think you cannot ignore the fact though that he wouldn't be with you if he had a place to go, or hadn't had to leave where he was.

[joypulv]

He doesn't work on relationships and doesn't seem to care anyway, walking into danger with the daughter of the woman who took him in. He takes the easy path and the selfish path. You have to ask yourself if you really want him? Yes, I know you have his child, but that's because you so casually thought it was fine to get pregnant not long after meeting him. Of course 'all is good' when first in love.
And added to all that is your admitted tendency to mouth off.
And added to all that is the fact that you have other kids who aren't his.
The two of you have too much to work on, and I don't see either one of you changing. Even if you could curb your temper, I don't see him changing his ways.

You want what you had back? That was romance, the beginning. It either evolves or stagnates.

"The tritest saying is oftenest true
I'm in love with a memory that never was you"

And if you haven't yet, file for child support, and get a court ordered DNA test, while you are deciding what to do.

[Victoria Z]

That's really a horrible feeling . I found out my child's father was cheating on me at 5 months pregnant. I kept trying to work it out with him because of the baby. I love him but I am disgusted when I look at him. I had to leave . It's been 2 months. That's something that I believe I will never get over

[tickle]

@Victoria. Is that why you still have a tracking app on your cell phone ?