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Dec 11, 2014, 07:41 PM
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I asked my friend out and she rejected me and now she hates me
All right so I'm a freshman and so I met this girl and we were really good friends after a while and so I also liked her and so when I told her how I feel about her we kept on talking(not as much though) but things were kind of awkward. Then I asked her out and she rejected me and so now she is giving me the silent treatment and she apparently hates me and she almost never forgives people. HELP ME!!
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Jobs & Parenting Expert
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Dec 11, 2014, 07:53 PM
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Freshman in high school? I'm guessing it's over, even the friendship. Time will go by and maybe you two will become friends again -- but don't count on it. Meanwhile, meet and talk with and get to know other girls.
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Entomology Expert
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Dec 11, 2014, 07:56 PM
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You should have taken the awkward part of your friendship as some sort of clue that asking her out would not work.
Walk away from this and learn from it.
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Dec 11, 2014, 07:57 PM
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Oh and I also cant get over her T_T
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Marriage Expert
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Dec 11, 2014, 08:26 PM
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It may not feel like it but she is being a lot nicer to you than many females would be. Let me explain, she isn't leading you on or giving you false hope that her feelings might change. That is a lot better than keeping you as a close friend while knowing that you have stronger feelings for her than she does for you. Bluntly, she isn't using you to stroke her ego.
It may seem like she is angry or hates you, but it is probably closer to being upset over losing a friend and wondering if she somehow led you on. She might even be backing off from the friendship to give you time and space to work through your feelings and move on to other interests.
I know it seems like you will never be interested in another female the way you are this one, but if you keep busy and give yourself a chance to let this dream go, you will find someone else. It is a part of growing up. Not fun and it does hurt, but someday your feelings for her will be a pleasant memory that flits through your mind as you pursue a new interest who shares your feelings.
Just give your heart a chance to heal and don't blind yourself to the other females who might be hoping you will notice them.
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Dec 12, 2014, 04:01 AM
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Sometimes you are better off as just friends. She wasn't interested in being more than friends... it happens, it will likely happen again in your life at some point. It may even be a girl liking you more than just friends.
Give it some time for you both to feel less awkward. If you were good friends before, it doesn't automatically have to end your friendship. See how things go. Say hi to her and start conversations, but focus on other things as well.
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Dec 12, 2014, 04:47 AM
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She doesn't hate you! She is doing you a favor because you didn't get it when she drew back after you told her how you felt about her. You were supposed to either force yourself to be 'just friends' like you started out, or steer clear of her. But you ruined it by asking her out. You knew she wasn't going to go, but you couldn't control yourself. Now you 'can't get over her.' JOIN THE CLUB. The world is full of unrequited love. You suffer through it til it's gone, just like everybody else. You are too young to be in a serious relationship. And the way you handled this is proof! Life is tough, and it doesn't get much tougher than the age you are at.
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Dec 12, 2014, 06:51 AM
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 Originally Posted by helpme098765432
Oh and I also cant get over her T_T
Leave her alone because she doesn't want to date you or even be around you. Let this be a lesson in how to handle rejection and disappointment. Sorry guy, but the grand plan for romance didn't work, so get over it. Don't make this a big crisis and be stuck on it. It's NOT.
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Dec 12, 2014, 10:11 PM
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She does not hate you, why such etremes, she merely knows that a friendship can not normally work, if it tries to move past friends,
I am not sure, why people, want to tell others all the feelings, and not just ask others out. But, no, things seldom go back
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