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J_9 · Nov 30, 2014, 08:41 AM

I have to agree with Cat.

This may sound harsh, but your mother couldn't handle you so she sent you to your father in hopes that he could. While you paint a pretty picture about being the perfect daughter, it is glaringly apparent to this of us who are parents that you are not. We can tell by your posts alone.

It is time for tough love and your dad is doing just that. In the grand scheme of things one month is nothing considering your drug use and the method you used to obtain those drugs.

If you want some semblance of freedom, you need to face your punishment. Pay the piper so to speak.

Suck it up my young friend, what you did was not only unethical, but illegal. You could be in far worse conditions than this. Consider yourself lucky.

Thinkaboutit · Nov 30, 2014, 10:52 AM

I'm not the perfect daughter I know that but I'm not stupid either. Know if I want him to let me out of my room then I got to behave me self. I've been doing that I've done everything they have wanted me to I haven't argued or complained once I know I come here to complain a lot I'm frustrated but I haven't said anything to either of them I'm not stupid I know that would only make it worse. I've been going to my drug awareness classes and been going to teen challenge to do a programme. I've completed all of my school work given to me and school finishes for the year next week. I get average grades I'm not top of me class but I don't fail anything. As for me mum she sent me here to me dads because I don't like her a$$ of a boyfriend and he doesn't like me and I was rude to him and I'm not sorry at all about that. I just want to get out of me room you try being shut up for this long god I come out to eat shower and toilet. Then 2 times a week I get to leave the house for 2 hours. I'm going friggin mental here. I'm just going to sneak out when he's asleep I'm over it

talaniman · Nov 30, 2014, 11:10 AM

I highly suggest you fight your rebellious impulses and follow the rules for a change rather than make things worse. You may think the punishment doesn't fit the crime but it really does, and won't end until its ends.

Your behavior got you here, and your behavior will keep you here. Where do you think the consequences of more bad behavior, and breaking the rules, will land you next? Jail??

Bad as it is for you it could be worse. Get with the program!

Thinkaboutit · Nov 30, 2014, 01:50 PM

I doubt I can go to jail for sneaking out. It's not like I'm going to do anything bad I just want to get out of me room go for a walk do something. I don't understand if they think keeping me in me room I will stop me from taking drugs that's funny cause if I wanted to I could have but I don't want to if keeping me in me room is punishment then it sux and me step mum must hate it to seeing she hates having me around.how is keeping me in my room fair

Wondergirl · Nov 30, 2014, 02:03 PM

How long were you not being fair?

Thinkaboutit · Nov 30, 2014, 02:16 PM

I get it already I messed up how am I suppose to show them that I've changed by sitting in my room. They are just ignoring me and it hurts he hardly speaks to me I mean he can't still be that mad

Wondergirl · Nov 30, 2014, 03:24 PM

You go to school, to drug awareness classes, and to the teen challenge thing. Sounds like you get out. Do you mean get out "for fun"?

Is there any way to reconcile with your stepmum?

Thinkaboutit · Nov 30, 2014, 03:52 PM

I don't go to school not aloud to had to finish year at home. I don't even know what I did wrong to my step mum. I mean just out of my room even in the back yard I'm sick of being stuck in here seriously what can I do in the back yard really. I'm just over it

tickle · Nov 30, 2014, 04:03 PM

I am sick of hearing you complaining about this, and almost consider you a TROLL.

This thread should be closed, because quite frrankly, it isn't going no where.

Thinkaboutit · Nov 30, 2014, 04:10 PM

Close it it doesn't matter anyway. I complain too much ill get over it

tickle · Nov 30, 2014, 04:15 PM

I am sure you will when you GROW UP

talaniman · Nov 30, 2014, 04:33 PM

This thread will not be closed because ALL the young dope heads should know what they will face when caught doing drugs and have to pay the consequences! You are lucky to be at home, and not in jail! Keep complaining, who cares since you did this to yourself, and are acting like any dope head who cannot use!

Its part of detoxing and its supposed to be hard, and miserable for the first 30 days, and gets harder after that! Expect a year at least of discipline, and tough love, and you are just getting started on a better path than you were before! I am sure you have been told this already.

tickle · Nov 30, 2014, 04:35 PM

Ahmen tal

J_9 · Nov 30, 2014, 05:00 PM

You can't understand what you did to make your step mother dislike you? You came into her house as a troubled child with a rebellious attitude. Of course she didn't want you in her home to influence her young child.

It's time you realize that you are solely responsible for the position you are in.

You ou could very easily be placed in a juvenile detention center where eyes are on you 24/7. You can't even use the bathroom or take a shower without someone watching you.

You created this drama, now you have to suffer the consequences.

Thinkaboutit · Nov 30, 2014, 05:27 PM

They didn't have to have me it was their idea I didn't even want to come here I was happy where I was. Just because I didn't like me mums boyfriend. I know I'm here because of what I've done I know it's my own fault and I'm doing what I need to to not do it again. I'm just frustrated being stuck in this stupid room my problem ill stop complaining

DoulaLC · Nov 30, 2014, 05:39 PM

Start keeping a journal about your experience, thoughts, feelings, etc. It might help you deal with the frustration to write all of this down. With so much free time on your hands, start a blog to help other teens avoid the same mistakes. Teens often listen better to their peers than to others. Put your energy and time to good use.

As has been said so many times, you get out when your father says you get out. Ask him. Ask him what else you can do to earn back his trust and how much longer he thinks you might be staying in your room. Just those two questions... nothing more, no whinging, short and to the point. He may give you a time limit, he may respond, "When I say you can get out", he may say nothing at all, but you will have put the questions out there.

Figure out what you can do with your time that will either benefit you, such as learning some new things, or ways that you can help others.

Fr_Chuck · Dec 1, 2014, 12:14 AM

They took you, because they cared and wanted to try and change your life

If you think this is bad, consider a room the size of your bath room, that you get out of 1 hour a day, to go to a prison yard.

The teen challenge program is one of the best, if you try, but with the attitude you have, it is going to be worthless unless you are trying to change.

And change is not a week or two week, it will take a longer time, for things to get back to a level of normal.

Thinkaboutit · Dec 1, 2014, 05:47 AM

I get that none of you know me and I appreciate the advice but I don't like being called a dope head because I'm not I might of made bad choices but I isn't no dope head Being stuck in me room and being sick of it has nothing to do with not being able to take drugs because I can if I want to I have pills in the house and I could have took them if I wanted to its not even about that. If I could get out of me room I would get rid of them. I realise I messed up I get that but how would you like being stuck in a room for ages it ain't nice. Yes me punishment I did it to me self I know. I asked me dad how long am I going to be stuck in me room for till he feels I'm ready to come out is there anything I can do no just stay out the way and behave. Far enough. He didn't take me to try and change my life for the better he took me because he wanted to look good to seem like he cared I wasn't even that bad. You all keep talking about prison I wouldn't have even of gone to prison I've never done any thing bad and if I didn't tell me dad then he wouldn't have know. Pane I told him because I needed help. I wanted to stop not be locked away

talaniman · Dec 1, 2014, 07:37 AM

Maybe you were not a full blown dopehead YET, but you were headed that way, and you get credit for wanting to stop and knowing you needed help to do so. Well you got that help, and you should accept and embrace it.

Unfortunately it takes more than good intentions to help you, and only a FOOL that didn't care would trust the good intentions of a troubled future full blown DOPE HEAD! (Like being a half a dope head is any better)

Trust me, soon you will stop denying the full gravity of your bad choices, and decisions, and the effects it has on not just you, but the people around you. Go ahead, keep thinking its all about you, and what YOU want, when its NOT! When you can see beyond just what you want, and the devastation you have caused others you may be ready for the NEXT step. There are many you must take.

Until then do as you are told and get with the program, and start being grateful you have been given a chance to avoid the future of most dope heads... JAILS, INSTITUTIONS, and DEATH... for now any way!

And you are wrong about NOT knowing you. We have seen many like you before, wanting help, but wanting the easy way out, YOUR way. It NEVER works YOUR way, so try this way. If you could have cleaned up you act without help you would have right?

Good intentions are never enough, you NEED good orderly direction and that's what you will get when you stop complaining about what you want. LOL, you aren't even locked up, just restricted, for your own good.

Thinkaboutit · Dec 1, 2014, 01:43 PM

Your right I did ask for help I couldn't do it by myself. I know me dad is doing everything he can for me and I'm just being selfish worrying about being locked in me room. Obviously you all seem to think I'm where I belong so I should just suck it up. I'm not going to complain anymore I'm going to work on being a better person and thinking about other people instead of just myself. Thought about it heaps and I couldn't make the right choice and I should just believe that me dad is making the right choices for me even if I don't like them. Think I've been told like a million time by all of you so I'm going to stop being a baby and listen. Thank you all for the advise its been helpful I know I don't seem like I listen but sometimes I just don't take it in straight away. So I'll stop bothering you all now.