[Mahi994]

Hi

I have been in relationship with a guy for 8 years from now .

We both have played quite a devil's role in each ones life..

During the first 3 years I had cheated on him and so has he.. we both got past that and got back together. Ever since then I have always been honest to him..

But off lately he has cheated on me 4-5 times ( that I know - when I say cheat I mean flirt with others telling others he is single etc etc.. lying to me that he is somewhere when he is with other girls etc )

He still says he loves me and he wants to be with me.. I am also still with me but this question keeps hunting me if I should break up.. I am not sure if I love him still I do care for him a lot though..

The main problem when I try to analysis if I should break up or not is that we both are financially dependent on each other . I have taken a couple of loans because of him and still paying off the emi's my credit card bills are really high with both of us spending..

So not sure if I decide to break up how to deal with the financial matters

[talaniman]

You get a financial plan that works for you, and your financial independence and work the plan. Or leave and file bankruptcy, and start over without him. Get the plan financial together and see what works best for you, with or without his help and maybe with the advice of a trusted financial expert. Maybe that's what you both need a better financial plan/counseling.

Start there and see what happens. At least you will have a plan,and options to decide what you want, and have to do to get it,and unravel your financial mess.

[joypulv]

Using overspending as an excuse to stay together is just awful. Break up and get your life in order before you get involved with anyone. Move in with family or roommates or something to save while you pay off loans and debts.