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    Nov 4, 2014, 04:10 PM
    Break up soon? Help
    I've been dating this guy for about 3 years now. We have always been very serious. I am in love with him and he feels the same way. We've been through a lot of crap, we're not really like the other couples. My parents do not like him and my father have caused us many problems. He even sent me to another country so I could stay away from him (I eventually came back but it was after he graduated and left the country himself for university), so we've been distancing since.
    I had the option to stay in the other country where my life was much easier (away from my dad, close to my family, friends, freedom) but I decided not only because if I did I wouldn't have the chance to see my boyfriend ever again (he visits the country once a year ) so I decided to leave everything just to be able to see him at least once a year.
    So he wanted to continue his studies in france so he asked me if I wanted to study there too after I graduate so we can have a future together ( I honestly never liked french and never wanted to study there) I said yes and meant it even though its not where I want to study. And it has been my plan since.
    Today he told me that he ddnt know if he wanted to go to france because in he feels like in his current university he will be more successful. I am not mad at him for thinking that but if he really thought of it, not going to france means not being with me. We will have to break up. So he would chose that over me... And that really hurt me because I always had him as my priority and now I feel stupid and I don't know what to say or do. I need advice please . Thank you
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    Nov 4, 2014, 04:15 PM
    Is going to France set in stone for you or can you change your plans?

    You are 17, correct?
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    Nov 5, 2014, 02:27 AM
    Im 17, he's the one who told me to go to france so we could have a chance to be together and I said yes without even thinking because I'd do anything to see him even though I don't want to go to france.

    Yes I can change my plans, he's not just going for me he wanted to go there to study too
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    Nov 5, 2014, 02:56 AM
    Looks like he has decided on his priorities. From what you've posted it seems your relationship is not at the top of his list. Now you have to decide on yours.
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    Nov 5, 2014, 04:28 AM
    I have to agree with Cats here as he has his priorities, and you need to get yours in order. I think this is a wake up call.
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