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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    #41

    Oct 15, 2014, 07:33 AM
    Trust me, stalking is a bad flaw that keeps the wounds from healing. A distraction from what's the REAL priority. MOVING beyond this experience. Why hurt yourself in the process, and does making a wound deeper really help YOU?

    I don't think so!! That's some rather insane, stinking thinking in my view, a total waste of time, energy, and focus, AND extremely unhealthy. Stalking gets out of control fast, and easily.

    I think you can, and should do BETTER than that!
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    Oliver2011 Posts: 2,606, Reputation: 746
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    #42

    Oct 15, 2014, 07:41 AM
    Wow. Wrong move after wrong move usually doesn't lead to a positive outcome. Listen to what Talaniman and just move on. He's not worth your effort.
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    #43

    Oct 15, 2014, 07:55 AM
    A agree with the above posters... stalking will NEVER end in anything good or anything positive. And it can land you in jail and it will easily land a restraining order against you. Either will haunt you the rest of your natural life.
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    #44

    Oct 15, 2014, 08:42 AM
    Stalking on Facebook or on internet I meant. Whatsapp viber etc. but okay, I'll try to control myself from doing it. I don't know why I check all this even though I don't want to!
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    #45

    Oct 15, 2014, 08:48 AM
    Still a REALLY bad habit to get into. There are VERY few people that won't send someone packing that they caught doing it. It not an endearing trait. Its much like saying you only use Heroin socially.. um OK, if you see the point. It's a slippery slope once you take that first step.
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    #46

    Oct 15, 2014, 09:34 AM
    Hmm.. Yea you're right. It's an addiction and moving on is like withdrawing from a drug. I won't stalk now and do something else when The urge is strong
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    #47

    Oct 15, 2014, 09:42 AM
    Spend it working on a hobby, exercise, friends. Any outlet that's healthy you can do until after the thoughts pass. And eventually you will in your own heart have moved on and the urges will have disappeared.

    No need to jump into another relationship just yet. Too many rebound relationships fail because they are usually entered into for all the wrong reasons.
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    #48

    Oct 15, 2014, 10:23 AM
    Yea, I'm not physically and mentally prepared for a rebound as well. Cannot do anything and I usually act so weird and I end up upsetting the other person. It's contagious. I've made a to-do list. I'll work on it for sure.

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