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    #1

    Aug 24, 2014, 09:50 PM
    What is wrong with me?
    Hi, I had sex on June 31- August 1 (one of those days) I am on birth control and usually I have a period every month. So this month I didn't receive a period at all. However, I did get some discharge but it only lasted for a short period. My back is always hurting, I have pain in my right side, Lower abdominal cramps, mild headaches, sometimes I feel very light headed and also I get hot QUICKLY, and today in the middle of eating breakfast my food tasted really bitter. My boyfriend thinks that I could be pregnant, but I keep denying it. In fact he thinks so and sometimes his mind says otherwise. I am not able to get a hold of a test right now and I think that there could be something else besides this that may be going on with me. If there are other things that may cause this I would like to know.

    Thanks
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    Aug 25, 2014, 04:54 AM
    Why do so many people go to such extremes convincing themselves they are pregnant when only 14 days after their period is due a simple home pregnancy test that cost just a couple dollars can give them a FAR more credible answer?

    Can't get a hold of a test right now? They sell them in most grocery stores and ALL Drug stores/pharmacies. They aren' hard to find, nor expensive.

    You buy one today and you take it right after you wake up tomorrow morning (don't even think about taking one after the first time you pee in the morning).

    There are hundreds if not thousands of things that can cause those sorts of symptoms... for women and MEN, not to mention the very young and very old. Meaning its far, far more likely its NOT pregnancy related.
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    Aug 25, 2014, 06:48 AM
    Sometimes cycles can be off, but if you are sexually active, and usually have a regular cycle, pregnancy is going to be one of the first things to consider when your period doesn't show after several days.

    As smoothly said, you can pick up a pregnancy test very inexpensively at most supermarkets, Target, Walmart, Walgreens, even at the dollar store. If you try one, follow the directions carefully. If you can't get one, have your boyfriend pick one up for you.

    You may simply have a bit of an illness, but checking for pregnancy would be wise.
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    Aug 25, 2014, 02:00 PM
    @Both. Im not able to see my boyfriend. So that's a problem.
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    Aug 25, 2014, 02:52 PM
    How does not being able to see your boyfriend prevent you from getting a pregnancy test?
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    Aug 25, 2014, 02:58 PM
    He doesn't pee on the stick... you do.
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    Aug 25, 2014, 08:14 PM
    Because he cant get it for me and I can't get one either. Not only that but I cannot leave the house. So it has a lot to do with that.
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    Aug 25, 2014, 08:17 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by B0ssLady View Post
    Because he cant get it for me and I can't get one either. Not only that but I cannot leave the house. So it has a lot to do with that.
    Why can't you leave the house? You do realize that if you're pregnant, you're going to have to leave the house, at least once a month every month for a checkup until the baby is born, every week for the last month, and to get supplies for the baby after it's born.

    Why do you need him to get you a pregnancy test? Why aren't you capable of getting one on your own?
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    Aug 25, 2014, 08:23 PM
    I think we need more info. Why are you so incapacitated that you can't even get a pregnancy test? How do you plan to care for a baby, a baby that will need shots, doctors checkups, supplies, etc. when you can't even go to the dollar store to get a pregnancy test?

    Why can't, or won't, your boyfriend, who will obviously have to got out for everything, take the baby to all its shots, get all the supplies, and somehow drag you to doctors appointments during your pregnancy, pick up a pregnancy test?


    If you can't, or won't, get a pregnancy test, than what do you expect us to help you with? Pregnancy can only be determined with a urine test, blood test, ultrasound during later pregnancy, or giving birth. Those are your options. There are no others.
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    Aug 25, 2014, 08:24 PM
    As a fifteen year old girl.. I am only allowed so much freedom. If I could talk to my sister about this then I will ask if she can. I can't tell my mother because it is very hard to talk to my mother. If I came off stupid then I'm very sorry to all of you.
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    Aug 25, 2014, 08:26 PM
    You had sex somewhere (June 30-August 1--a whole month?), but can't leave the house?
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    Aug 25, 2014, 08:26 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by B0ssLady View Post
    As a fifteen year old girl.. I am only allowed so much freedom. If I could talk to my sister about this then I will ask if she can. I can't tell my mother because it is very hard to talk to my mother. If I came off stupid then I'm very sorry to all of you.
    If you are pregnant at 15, mommy will know soon enough. You don't stay pregnant forever. Sooner or later the baby comes out (usually at around 9 months), and mommy will notice. She'll notice long before then, when your tummy gets bigger.

    So, if you are pregnant, how do you plan to care for this baby, when you're not even given enough freedom to go to the store for a pregnancy test?

    If you are pregnant do you plan to keep this baby?
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    Aug 25, 2014, 08:27 PM
    You never bothered to mention that you are only 15...that may have made a difference in the responses you got.
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    Aug 25, 2014, 08:28 PM
    Yes I did. I was in school and it happened. I did have freedom to a certain extent but now I don't anymore.
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    Aug 25, 2014, 08:33 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by B0ssLady View Post
    Yes I did. I was in school and it happened. I did have freedom to a certain extent but now I don't anymore.
    Yes you did what? Mention that you're 15? If that's what you mean... no... you did not! Not to us!

    You had sex at school? Where? Now that's romance, sex in the bathroom, gym locker room, under the bleachers? Wow! He didn't even care enough for you to have a pillow under your head while he was getting his kicks? He's a keeper! (sarcasm).

    So why doesn't he get a pregnancy test? What's holding him back? Also, how old is Mr. Right Now?
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    Aug 25, 2014, 08:33 PM
    I was afraid people would judge me because I am in fact VERY sensitive. And if so then yes. I don't believe in abortion and if so then I will tell my mother and she would let me do what I need to do to care for the child, but as of now my freedom is shortened. I have certain freedoms but they don't include things that I do with a group of friends without my mother. At least not anymore.
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    Aug 25, 2014, 08:35 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by B0ssLady View Post
    I was afraid people would judge me because I am in fact VERY sensitive. And if so then yes. I don't believe in abortion and if so then I will tell my mother and she would let me do what I need to do to care for the child, but as of now my freedom is shortened. I have certain freedoms but they don't include things that I do with a group of friends without my mother. At least not anymore.
    Well then you're screwed. If you can't, or won't, get a pregnancy test, or any prenatal care, just wait 9 months. If you give birth, you were pregnant.

    Good luck.
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    Aug 25, 2014, 08:38 PM
    How old is this guy?

    But really, at your age, this is too young to be having sex. You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't rush it. Don't do something that may make you regret it later. Think about where you are at now and where you will be at if you do get pregnant, you know? Be smarter than that. If you dodge the bullet this time, learn from it and don't take anymore chances until you are really ready.
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    Aug 25, 2014, 08:42 PM
    He's a year older. Hes not a bad guy at all. Please don't get the wrong impression. He's always been there for me. I do understand what your saying. It's a Loooooong story behind all of this and it honestly cannot be typed all out. It's just I had no one to talk to so I turned to the internet for help.
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    Aug 25, 2014, 09:19 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by B0ssLady View Post
    He's a year older. Hes not a bad guy at all. Please don't get the wrong impression. He's always been there for me. I do understand what your saying. It's a Loooooong story behind all of this and it honestly cannot be typed all out. It's just I had no one to talk to so I turned to the internet for help.
    You turned to the internet, you asked your question, and we answered it. Sadly there's really nothing we can do to help, especially since you can't, or won't, help yourself, and neither will your boyfriend that's always there for you.

    You had sex, you played an adult game, and those games have adult consequences. So like it or not, you have to start being an adult, even though you're not ready to be. That means finding out if you're pregnant, and if you are, and decide to keep it, it means getting prenatal care, getting a job, getting a place to live, getting all the supplies a baby needs, paying for all of that, and medical care for the baby, not to mention the medical costs to have the baby. Babies aren't cheap. They're not easy either. They grow up to be teens that make bad choices. They don't listen anymore than you did.

    You were old enough to have sex and possibly make a baby, so sorry that you didn't consider the consequences. There's a reason why adults tell children they're not ready for sex, and this is it. But it's too late for that lecture. Now you have to find out if you're pregnant, and no one online can do that for you.

    Good luck.

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