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    ginnalea Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 20, 2014, 10:41 AM
    Why do I have no Libido
    Im 20, in a happy relationship of 2 years, happy with my life and yet as long as I can remember I've never ever been one for sex, I think I could live my life happy without it and not make any difference, I do however have regular sex with my partner, as he does enjoy it however not matter what the situation the place or the time, I've never looked forward to it or truly enjoyed it,

    Even in previous relationships have never truly cared about having sex, which frustrates me as I want to be able to enjoy it and not have it feel like chore,

    Sex doesn't hurt me and sometime it feels good but not enough to actually want it like I think I should

    Why is my sex drive so low!
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    CravenMorhead Posts: 4,532, Reputation: 1065
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    Aug 20, 2014, 12:22 PM
    Because you are the human being that you are. Libido is one of those things that is at a different level with almost everyone. Most people find others whose libido is similar enough that it doesn't cause problems. I had a girlfriend who had a very low libido and it worked for a good long while, but it became problem because I got REALLY tired of not having sex and being turned away. It was one of many reasons that relationship died.

    If it is a big issue for you you could ask your doctor about it. There might be medication that can help as it might be a hormone deficiency but I wouldn't bet on it. It all depends on how much this is bugging you and how much effort and money you want to put into figuring out what is wrong if anything.

    As a sideways question, have you ever masturbated? I can guess the answer is no based upon what you posted. It might be that you don't know quite how things work so you can't really direct your boy in how to pleasure you.
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    Aug 20, 2014, 09:05 PM
    I will agree with the above answer. It may be from a past issue, ( long forgotten) or even strict religious upbringing. ** That was not addressed.

    But some people would like it twice a day, others seldom. People are just different.

    But I will agree, about masturbation, and how much foreplay is going into this. Does your partner get you to climax prior to starting intercourse with foreplay?

    If you can not tell your partner what feels good, and how you like it, he will have no idea.

    Women like things somewhat different, and you have to teach him to please you

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