[Brianna0017]

My due date is 14 dec I was raped on march 18 and I bleed while I was getting raped and on 22 of march I started dating my current boyfriend and on 25 of march through Wednesday of April 9 th me and him had lots of intercourse.. Online conception calculators say 18-23march was possible date of conception but my periods last for five days and the length is 29 days and the luteal phase is 15.. My friend said my conception date was 26 of march.. I'm so confused my ob gyn said my due date is 14 dec

[J_9]

With dates this close you will have to have a DNA test done after the baby is born.

[smoothy]

Those online calculators can be very wrong with many people as they make assumptions women are all consistent which they aren't. As J_9 says, DNA test is the only sure way to know who the father is.

[J_9]

Sperm can live I a woman's body for up to a week. In essence, if you were pregnant with twins, one man could be the father of one baby and the other man could be the father of the other baby.

[Teri12357]

Regardless of whose baby it is, this little one did not ask for this. Your boyfriend is probably the father with the odds in his favor. Just love the baby and if your boyfriend wants to be the father either way then let him. If he doesn't know about the rape be honest with him now, it is better he finds out now then after the baby is born.

[smoothy]

Teri2357, How can you claim the odds are in the boyfriends favor? The odds aren't in anyone's favor... and nobody can say its "probibly" either one, not even a fortune teller. The odds are 50/50.

[Teri12357]

Smoothy,
True, it only takes one sperm to fertilize the egg then it is over for the rest but one time compared to multiple times during the fertile times I would still put my money on the boyfriend. But again, it only does take one time.

[smoothy]

And which on that is could just as easily been either mans... Its not like buying up most of the raffle tickets... it takes several days to get there if any get there, they can live in her for a week... and nobody know exactly what day she ovulated or actually conceived... only that she did.

And incidentally... it is possible for two mens sperm to fertilize 2 eggs if she happens to release two or more eggs. Not all twins come from the same egg.

[Brianna0017]

I'm not having twins but my hopes r that the baby is my boyfriends and he knows about the rape

[smoothy]

Well, good luck and hope it turns out to be the boyfriends. You really DO need to know who the father is because many medical problems can be passed down through the fathers side as well as the mothers... and you want to know for sure the family history. And thats why the DNA test is important.

[J_9]

Your boyfriend is probably the father with the odds in his favor

Teri12357, if you are the RN you claim to be, you know that you cannot make such blanket statements. Sperm can live in the female body for up to a week, which makes it possible for either man to be the father. I realize you are trying to put the OPs mind to rest, but that is doing her an injustice.

[Fr_Chuck]

The boyfriend knows and is aware of the rape. So he is also aware the child may or may not be his. I would do a DNA test just to know, so there is no doubt or issues later.

Also, how ready is boyfriend to be a father? You have only dated for less than 6 months, really a short time to go from dating, to parenting.

[Brianna0017]

My boyfriend is ready to be a parent ✌✌✌

[Brianna0017]

Plus the person that raped me I my ex boyfriend cousin and he doesn't have any family with any problems

[smoothy]

THat you are aware of... there are a lot of things people don't discuss outside the immediate family.

[Brianna0017]

The doctor would have told me if there was a problem or something else with the baby that me and my boyfriend family don't have the doctor would have said something but the doctor didn't 😒😒😒

[smoothy]

How could the doctor know about the fathers family medical history since you don't even know for sure which one the father is yet.

And even if BOTH fathers were long time patients of that same doctor... that doctor could tell you NOTHING about their medical history due to HIPAA laws.

A great majority of "problems" would occur long after the birth... some of them not until adulthood.

[Brianna0017]

The doctor did a ultra sound and show me that there's no problem in the baby that's what I meant

[J_9]

The doctor did a ultra sound and show me that there's no problem in the baby that's what I meant

Ultrasounds do reveal a lot, but they don't reveal everything. There are genetic predispositions that are undetectable by ultrasound alone. The most reliable test is an amniocentesis.

[ScottGem]

Brianna,
First, I'm a bit concerned here. Less than a week after you raped you started dating a new guy. Less than a week later you entered a 2 week period where you had lots of sex. I realize that different women react differently to such trauma, but this behavior seems over the top. Have you had any counseling? Your behavior seems somewhat compulsive and it concerns me. Since you seem to know your attacker, have you reported this rape to the police? Is the rapist being prosecuted?

Second, as others have noted the dates are too close together to rule out either guy as the father. So you will need to do DNA testing after birth to find out who the father is.