[Voetjie]

I've been with this girl for a while and she's been upset for a while and we broke up and she started being with this guy I really hate and she knows that. I asked her to take me back, we have this promise paper that's really sentimental... It's like almost the existence of our relationship and we broke up a few times but we could never so something to that paper... I gave it a shot and gave it to her today and ask her not to waste the paper... She tore it right in front of me and didn't care at all and now she's with this guy and they are planning to have sex... She's in my school and I can't see her with him.. Their always around me.. I can't do this anymore, I can't stop thinking of her, I need to die to stop this.. I can't do this, please help I need some professional help or I should just let it be and put a bullet in my head.

[smoothy]

Its not your business, she is no longer you girlfriend... Time to move ahead in your life.

Life goes on... you WILL get over failed relationships just like everyone else does... it only sucks in the beginning. In a few months time you are going to be wondering why you got so worked up about this at all.

If you need professional help to do that....then seek it out.

[SimsDiamond]

Hope it works out for you xx

[talaniman]

Is this the same girl from your previous posts? I assume it is given the timeline on your other threads. You may be all hurt and stuff from the break up, but instead of missing her, you should be celebrating you got away from not just the arguments, but the public humiliations. When you see her remember all the bad stuff she put you through, and this new guy will have to go through it now and not YOU!

You are a lucky dude, but just don't know it... yet!

[Jake2008]

"This girl may not appriciate you now but make sure you are there to take her back when she is ready, dying is not the answer and ensures that you won't be able to be there for her when she comes to her senses "... this from SimsDiamond above.

You don't have to be an 'expert' to know that advise like yours, is actually harmful. False hope, which is what you are suggesting, is not what will help him recover from a relationship that is over.

To our poster, consider seeking help. You have already reached out to us, but seeing someone, and talking face to face, will be a much better route to take.

Until that happens, consider keeping a written diary every day. Pick a quiet time, and write out how you are feeling, and any event of the day that you can identify, that caused you anxiety over this girl. (i.e. seeing her at school with another guy).

Write your heart out, and no matter how it seems or sounds in your head, write it out and purge those thoughts that ruined your day. See if you can't find some understanding in remembering in as much detail as you can, even the thoughts you feel ashamed of, or embarrassed about. Keep the diary up, and in a short while, you will feel better because you are actually dealing with the pain of the relationship.

To keep ruminating over this, and adding to your grief every day, only keeps you in a very miserable place.

You can be, your own best counselor.

[Oliver2011]

You know looking back at your posts, you are always devastated beyond belief, can't stop thinking about someone, in horrible pain, and yet you always seem to survive. You will again this time as well.

And this is going to be a continual pattern with you as long as you allow other people to control your thoughts and emotions. Your self worth should be your business and your business only. It's time to grow up and control the things you can control, and let go of the things that you can't control. Trust me, you will be a much happier person when you finally start doing this.

[talaniman]

If you finally get some dignity, and self respect from this, that will be a great thing too.