[rosea buenafe]

I'm turning 29 this year. But until now I can't get pregnant ? It's been 7 years that my partner and I have been trying.

I'm 29 he's 43 year old. I love him so much. He's married but separated. They had a four children. I'm madly in love with him even though he treats me any way he only wants. He never gives me his attention or to his children. He's always gambling, drinking, and anything he wants. But i can't leave him! I'm stuck. What do I have to do?

[Jake2008]

Are you saying he is 'legally' separated, and the two of you are living together? Or, is he saying he's separated, and still living at home. And since you've been with him, are you saying he's had a 4th child with his wife?

I see nothing in your post that suggests that you see any characteristics about this man that are good. He's a gambler and a drinker, and he does what he wants, when he wants.

I think you know the answer to your situation, and that is, get a grip, see things for what they are, and get out.

You only add complications to an already complicated situation with his wife and four children. I imagine that you were seeing him when he was/still is?living with his wife, which makes you less than an honorable person yourself.

Him having four children that he pays no attention to is very sad. Why would you expect that a man who doesn't parent his own children, would take time for you?

As I said, you need to sever ties with this man, and get a life of your own without all the drama.

And stay away from married men.

[Cat1864]

Is this the person you are trying to have a child with: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ou-797715.html ?

I am not asking this to be mean but it is something that needs to be considered. If so, are you certain he is actually trying to have a child with you?

[ScottGem]

And you want to have a child with this loser (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/pregna...nt-797713.html)? Do you think that will bind him to you? You should be ending this nowhere relationship, not looking to have a child with him.

You need to find out why you have such low self esteem that you would involve yourself with such a man. Please get some help and end this.

[J_9]

Your threads have been merged.

Why in the world would you want to have a child with a married man who doesn't even respect the children he already has?

[talaniman]

What you have to do is chose a better father for your future children. You are caught up in utter insanity. Get help for yourself.

[teacherjenn4]

Time to move on with your life and find out why you'd want to stay with a married man who treats you poorly. Don't you deserve better?

[chadpaul21]

You are stuck, but only because you lack the courage to leave him. Why would you want to have a baby with this man, if he pays no attention to you or his children? By getting pregnant you are asking for a lifetime of misery. Walk away, however painful it is, and find a new life for yourself. He will never leave his wife for you, and a baby won't magically change his mind. You need to stop dreaming, dear. Wake up to reality.

[smoothy]

Cripes... he really doesn't have a single good redeming feature does he? Drunk, narcissist, only cares about you as a sex toy. And worse.. is a gambler. Sounds almost like a troll post.

You've been with him for 7 years and he's STILL separated. Sounds like he's in no rush to get divorced. He might already have a new girlfriend.


Seriously, I hate to sound this rude... but have you considered seeing a mental health professional. I honestly can't find one good reason a clear thinking rational woman would have anything to do with him based on what you've told us about him.

[Fr_Chuck]

It sounds like God has blessed you, by not having a child. You live with a married man, who is too sorry to divorce his wife, he does not give you any attention and he drinks and gambles.

There are many ways to have a baby, not knowing what you did, or did not, it is impossible to say for sure