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    joratti Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 24, 2014, 03:14 AM
    Still see ex's father.
    My long distance girlfriend broke up with me after 7 years. No contact would be easy, but I am in college still and her father is also taking classes in the same program as me.

    Any advice on how I should forget her even with this constant reminder? Its very hard because her dad can keep tabs on me and report to her and it makes me angry. I can't drop classes because the cohort I'm in is small and they may not offer the classes I need to graduate again for perhaps 6 months. Again, what can I do to forget my ex GF?

    I also forget to mention that I suspect her father and mother may have had a hand in her decision to dump me.
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    joypulv Posts: 21,591, Reputation: 2941
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    Jul 24, 2014, 03:20 AM
    Exactly how much interaction do you have to have with him?
    I personally would drop the class and take it again in 6 months, if it is as painful as you claim it is, and your class is a group discussion. But you are the only one who can decide which is more important to you, your emotional well being or graduating on time. You are already hurting enough. Don't add bitterness and anger at her father to the mix, or you will become a bitter and vengeful person. Don't stew over what you don't really know, such as how much he had to do with the breakup. Try to find what you can learn from a loss of love, to make you a wiser person. (I know, easy for me to say. Just something to think about as the months ease the pain.)
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    Jul 24, 2014, 06:14 AM
    I think HE made the right decision in making his lying, cheating, selfish abusive self so bad, that you were forced to finally see the light.
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    Jul 24, 2014, 06:40 AM
    You do not have to have contact. You merely have to see him.. Just do not talk or speak, and just do the class
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    Jul 24, 2014, 06:50 AM
    "Its very hard because her dad can keep tabs on me and report to her"

    What can be in that report?

    1) He wore a blue shirt today.
    2) He got his haircut short yesterday.
    3) He dropped his pencil on the floor.
    4) He was 2 minutes late today.

    Your relationship was with her, not him. Just limit your interactions with him and move on.
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    Jul 24, 2014, 06:50 AM
    You ignore him, and take control of YOURSELF and do the right thing for yourself. You have no control over the ex, her father, or ANYONE else, so exercise control of YOU. That means your feelings on the matter, and the situation you are in.

    You can remove yourself, or be cool, calm, collected and in control of yourself. Your choice. I highly recommend you learn to control your own emotions, and not do things that ruin your own future. Sorry guy, but the best decisions are NOT always the easiest to make.

    Get control of YOUR own anger, and frustration. IGNORE him and don't worry about what HE can do. It's quite a challenge for sure.
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    Jul 24, 2014, 07:50 AM
    It would be hard but you concentrate on your classes because you ARE attending classes but because of the girlfreind who WAS your girlfreind, You can not drop your classes. Don't take him as a reminder of your ex's girlfriend but take him as your Professor. Try it and then you will be habitual to it.

    And yeah Oliver is so true! Don't worry just Study and Get over her!
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    Jul 24, 2014, 10:40 AM
    To add to Olivers list (got to spread the rep some more before I can give it)

    5. Heard a fart that iminated from his general direction...

    6. He belched 4 times last week.

    7. He wore a shirt that just didn't go too well with his pants that day.

    8. He showed up for class not wearing any socks.

    I agree with everyone... just let it go, he's not there to keep tabs on you, he's there to learn just like you are. I'm sure he's not obsessing over you.

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