[Magicnibs]

Are there any relationship experts on here that can help me with and issue I'm having with my gay partner? I desperately need help.

[Fr_Chuck]

You ask your question, and people, give you answers, advice and other related information...

So, just ask your question

[Magicnibs]

Well it's really a story and it's confusing and stuff

My boyfriend an I are at a bad place in our relationship and I don't know how to turn it around he loves me but he's not showing it. I haven't been the nicest person to him but either has he. It's really confusing and I'm tired right now so I'll have to explain later

[Cat1864]

If it is confusing, you might try outlining/listing the major points and filling in from there.

edited to add: We will be here when you are ready.

[Magicnibs]

My boyfriend and I have not been in a great place in our relationship for a while. We have been together for going on three months now. It's real complicated but I'm now living with him and we recently purchased a bunny from some carnies at the fair because we wanted a bunny but we rushed into it just like we did our relationship and now our relationship bunny went into shock this morning because I didn't feed it last night due to arguing with my boyfriend because he freaked out. I know he loves me but he has a hard time showing it. I never stopped showing him I love him. I have a lot of issues that I need to look at but he does to and it's got to the point where he doesn't want to change because I haven't change much for him but he has go me. I know it's not right to be in even in a relationship but I can't change when he's constantly pissed off at me. I need help our relationship is going to and I don't want it to end just as much as I'm sure he doesn't. I know it's hard for him because he's been cheated on by every guy he's been with.

[J_9]

What is your question?

[Magicnibs]

I don't have one I just need advice! I will not break up with him.

[J_9]

You asked the same thing on July 12. We are a question and answer site. The way it works is... You ask a question, we provide the answers.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...es-796541.html

[Magicnibs]

Ok so your telling me you can't help

[J_9]

Exactly what is it you want help with?

[J_9]

This thread has now been closed.

[J_9]

Your threads have been merged. Please keep all info in one thread.

[talaniman]

Did you ever try sitting down and talking about how to make this work? I doubt things improve if you cannot just learn to communicate with each other.

[Oliver2011]

Magicnibs - You didn't give us much information to go on but I will try. Rushing into a relationship usually means a failed relationship. Why? Because you guys didn't know each other well enough and now you are finding out stuff that you should have known before you took the plunge. I am assuming you two live together. That makes it even more difficult.

What can you do now?

1) Stay consistent so that he sees regardless of who cheated on him in the past, you aren't those people.

2) As Tal said, communicate. Healthy and honest communication usually means a healthy and honest relationship.

3) Both of you set the goal to live drama-free. A drama-free relationship is a great relationship.

4) THIS ONE IS IMPORTANT: Keep your friends and your activities and allow your boyfriend to keep his friends and his activities. Being with someone 24/7 and losing your friends and your activities is not healthy and isn't a healthy relationship. My boyfriend is a surfer. I am a huge tennis player. When we got together he kept surfing every weekend and I continue to play tennis every weekend. Sure sometimes I go surfing with him but we allowed each other to have space and time. It makes the relationship very healthy. Plus if something happens where you lose your boyfriend you have your friends and activities to fall back on.

Good luck and let me know if I can help more.