[Zachary_Rich]

I'm chatting with this girl online for two months now in FB. And seen a few pics of a child on her other social networking profiles. And also what appears to be her in a wedding dress. She never mentioned having kids and I do not want to ask right now. Also I'm not sure if it's her in the wedding dress or some relative. I don't know if I should ask or should independently verify. I have never seen her in person. She said yes to a date but yes she is too busy right now. Please, advise!

[Wondergirl]

A date in person? This may not be a situation you want to get involved in. It's time to ask questions if you plan to continue with this, especially if you're hoping for a relationship.

[Zachary_Rich]

Thx for your advice,

Yes a date in person. I have failed to mention before. I like her and wouldn't mind if she has a kid as long as she is over her previous relationship

[Wondergirl]

Then you need to get into the nitty gritty and wiggle out a few answers from her as to her status of motherhood and girlfriend availability.

[DoulaLC]

If you have questions about whether she is actually single, find out the answer before considering going on a date. Is she aware that you have been to her other social network profiles? You could always comment on the sweet looking child and ask if that is her niece or nephew.

[talaniman]

What harm can asking a few IMPORTANT questions do? I would think that's part of chatting.

[Alty]

You want to date this girl, so it's normal to ask questions. I'd say:

"I saw the cute kid on your fb profile. What's his/her name? Is he yours? That wedding dress is really pretty. Is that you? Is that relationship over or are you married?"

If she wants to meet you in person she won't mind answering questions, and she'll likely have many questions of her own. I would! It's not like you two know each other, you met online! Heck, for all you know she could be a he!

[Fr_Chuck]

Are you extremely shy ? Or have dating issues?

If you have been chatting, for 2 months, you should know, almost every detail about her life. Including if she is married, single, divorced, and has children... In online dating, that is often asked the first few chats, Not 2 months later.

You do not have to say "I saw it on other sites" just ask,

What have you been chatting about, if you do not know the very basic things.

[Alty]

Exactly. When Chuck and I first started chatting on this site, I told all, and so did he. He knows my kids names, my husbands name, I'm pretty sure he even knows the names of my pets, because I made sure he did. He's seen my picture, he knows where I live, I'm sure he even knows my favorite food. I know him too. I know what he looks like, I know where he lives, I know his family, his kids.

I'm using Fr. Chuck as an example. I'm honest with everyone I meet, including the fact that I'm married and not looking for romance. Everyone I've known for a long time on this site, knows who I am, knows what I look like, knows where I live, knows that I'm married and have two kids and way too many pets, and even knows their names.

You don't even know if the pictures you saw on other social sites is her! Do you even know her name? Have you ever skyped with her? If she doesn't want to meet in person, or is too busy, at least you can video chat if she's really interested.

Like I said, she may not even be a she. You want to meet in person, she's making excuses, is too busy. So either she's not who she says she is, she's cheating on her husband by flirting online, or she's just not that into you.

[Zachary_Rich]

Thank you all for your answers!I feel much better talking to other people about this. I've bee thinking about this situation for a days now.I'm not shy at all. The reason I don't want to ask is I'm thinking if she hasn't shared this with me so far maybe she is not ready. If she was married and has a kid, it probably was a traumatic event. She is only 23 and the kid looks 2-3 yo. Maybe she will not appreciate me digging into this. I would definitely talk about this on the first date though. And also I know all kinds of details about her, pet names and all. I'm sure she is a real person and positive she is single. We chat day and night almost everyday

[Alty]

Have you ever watched the movie Catfish? I think you should.