[talaniman]

That's a valid point F Chuck, children often don't understand the rules the adults MUST follow. We really don't know what the visitation agreement is between a divorced mom and dad, and if it's COURT ORDERED, or NOT.

Willing to bet our young friend doesn't know either.

[dman1998]

[MENTION=23847]talaniman[/MENTION]
I am not here to argue once again. Thank you for the ideas, they helped a lot. However I remain where I stand on how mean some of these people were on a sensitive topic. Also to your other post I know that my parents do not have a COURT ORDERED custody case.

Thank You
Enjoy the rest of your day/night :) :)

[dman1998]

Where should I live?
Hi,
I know I have posted something similar to this but its kind of a different situation.
Let me kind of go into detail kind of what has happened through out my life...

When I was barely 2 years old my grandma was watching me while my mom was at work. May I point out my mom had a lot of financial issues because she was trying to take care of 2 other kids. One day she was crying to my grandma that she was not providing me with the care that I truly needed. My grandma decided that it was best that I lived with her and my grandpa. I have lived with them since I was 2 years of age, I am now 15.

Here are some of the reasons I do not want to live with my dad...

1.) I have lived with my grandma and grandpa since I was 2 years of age.

2.) My dad is not married yet to my step mom or my future step mom

3.) My dad and step mom fight quit often

4.) I feel like I would miss my grandma and grandpa too much cause I do everything with them.

PLEASE NOTE: IF YOU PREVIOUSLY READ MY OTHER THREAD I JUST DONT WANT TO GO OVER THERE UNTIL THINGS CHANGE THIS IS A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT TOPIC!!

Also I have some reasons that I don't want to live with my grandparents...

1.) I feel like I am treated different then everyone else

2.) They are not my BIO parents therefore I feel like they should not have to raise me

3.) I feel like I am always left out, and that I always have to stay home...

There are also many things that I like about both places I just don't know where to go... What do you guys think?

[talaniman]

I think you should be cool, calm, and collected and enough in control of yourself enough to enjoy the good of both worlds, and LEARN to deal with things when it's not as good as you like it. Not always the easiest thing to do for a kid, and most adults have trouble meeting those challenges of the best way to deal with not so comfortable or bad situations, as well.

We learn by going through it, and sometimes making mistakes, or just being WRONG! No one is perfect. Not even me and I have been through a lot, both good, and very bad. I am still LEARNING (I have grandkids about your age, and older, as many here have also). You may have a problem dealing with the adults who tell you straight up and honest what they think, I get that it's a serious and sensitive subject to you, but appreciate the honesty in which its given. Some of us have been there and done that, and learned while you are just trying to find a comfort level for yourself. We know its not easy, but fact is nobody can control the action of others, not even you my young friend, so deal with it better!

You have control over YOUR words and actions, and I would hope you choose them carefully and thoughtfully, though I appreciate the honesty, and understand the attitude, and inexperience (that will come). YOU have a good day and night too.

[dman1998]

[MENTION=23847]talaniman[/MENTION]
Thank you! :)

[talaniman]

And do me a huge favor please. Do NOT PM other posters with argumentative BS. The site does NOT tolerate such behavior, and I will NOT hesitate to put an end to it. Sensitive or NOT, find a better way to express yourself without unwanted off board contact.

Thank you in advance.