[theworld]

A few years ago I met a man via fb and we became friends. We used to converse often and he would get into these moods and phase me off. Occasionally he would send me messages and flirt. We would meet sometimes and have great intimacy. I wanted him so bad because I was attracted to him and felt a soul connection. I guess he never felt the same. Then I found out he got married to someone else but he was still messaging me. I emailed him and he just stopped talking to me. A year ago we reconnected and again the intimacy has been amazing. He told mee sleeps in another room and his wife and him are great roomates. He used to text often telling me he cares and loves me. He indicated he wanted to leave his wife for me. I told him it was lust. He has backed off considerably but still claims he loves me and cares. He doesn't say it as often as he once did. In my heart I believe things are great for him but he still wants me to be his lover and that is all I am to him. I have fallen in love with him and can't seem to be strong enough to let go yet I am such strong person. There is something about him. I am starting to feel like I am being used yet I also want to believe his words. My brain believes I have been played yet my heart wants to give him the benefit of the doubt. I am dying on the inside... how do I let him go?

[DoulaLC]

Sadly, you are being used, and even you are now starting to realize it. Keep it simple... just stop all contact with him. Delete and block him from FB, do the same for any email account and phone numbers. If you feel that you have to say something, just remind him that he is married and you are looking for something that he can't give you... then do not respond or contact him further in any way.

Yes, it will hurt for awhile, but in time you will get over it and start to see things for the way they truly are:

*if he had felt the same, he wouldn't have married someone else
*he has now shown himself to be someone who can not be trusted
*he may claim to love you, but I am sure his wife has heard the same thing and no doubt believes it too
*he doesn't know what commitment or love and respect are... or at least he's not been taking any of those things seriously
*of course he and his wife sleep in separate rooms.....another famous line given by someone who wants you to feel sorry for him as he justifies his cheating

Consider yourself lucky... his poor wife is the one who got stuck with a cheating spouse.

This is a lesson learned... NEVER get involved with a man who is not free to be with you

[tickle]

You are a booty call my dear, of course he will say anything about is relationship with his wife that sounds really noncommital and you believe it. Don't believe it. It is all a lie to have his cake and eat it too.

[Fr_Chuck]

You are fun extra sex... in fact, someone like him, often has three or four women like you.

Of course, he and his wife are sharing the same bed, he is telling you the standard lies.

You defriend him on Facebook, never go back to his pages, block his email, change phone numbers, and stop any contact with him.

Tell him, next time he contacts you,, you will send copies of all of his texts, to his wife...

[derwon25]

Hi sweets,
He is cheating on you. You have to make yourself realize this fact and most importantly keep telling this to yourself until you believe it. Take those love glasses off your eyes and the picture will become clear to you that if someone is cheating on you he is doing harm to you and anything that harms us we should keep ourselves away from that thing. Don't let him use you as a commodity, take the control in your hand. He does.not love you.

[smoothy]

You can't lay all the blame on him... you share it now, from the moment you first found out and continued with the relationship... you know he's married and haven't walked away.

If you don't walk away from him... then that makes you equal to him.

[Oliver2011]

"I am dying on the inside..." No you are not.

Cheaters cheat. If he leaves his wife do you really think he will be faithful with you? Cheaters need the fun and excitement of cheating. It's what they do. Why would you waste your time with someone like that? Move on...