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dre229 · Jun 23, 2014, 07:29 PM

In the beginning of the relationship we were both happy to be together. She was going through family problems and tough ones with her parents, I found out she was doing drugs and even before has she done them. She changed drastically over one day and at the end she thought I didn't accept her for who she was anymore, and she explained that telling me that its not going to work out. She told me if we could be friends and I said yes, because I promised her I'll be there for her when she needed it.

I find myself asking my friend for help, telling me that I should not communicate with her in anyway because we need our own time and it does hurt to see her on my social media anyway, so I blocked her. But I'm having second thoughts of why I shouldn't of done it because I told her I was going to be there for her when she needed it. I just wish I knew if this was the right thing to do? Thank you

Alty · Jun 23, 2014, 07:34 PM

Why should you be there for her? You two are no longer a couple. Being there for people that you used to date, very rarely works out for both people.

The best thing to do is block her, stop contacting her in any way, and let her find someone else to be there for her.

Oliver2011 · Jun 24, 2014, 04:47 AM

"She changed drastically over one day" Really? Or was that her true self? Did you actually know her well enough to know? I agree, move on. She has made her choice and you need to move your life forward.

smoothy · Jun 24, 2014, 04:59 AM

Run fast, run far... you don't want or need to be dealing with a drug abuser. As either a friend or a lover. THere is a LOT of baggage that comes with that.

Since you mentioned ex......its best to keep it that way...and was already said...move on with your life.

talaniman · Jun 24, 2014, 08:09 AM

Listen to your friend and give yourself time and space to let the cloud of emotional confusion settle and the healing process to begin. Drug users are unstable and unthinking manipulators that you CANNOT help no matter the good noble intentions and you would be wise to steer clear of an ex who is a user.

At least until you get your head and heart clear, and in control of your own emotions. That's what NO CONTACT is all about, getting yourself to a healthy place. Stay strong my friend as it will get better if you stay on the path, and the doubts will be replaced with confidence you are doing the right thing for yourself.

She needs tough love, and help, NOT an enabler. You are not qualified to help her, but can make it much worse for you both.