[TIGGERHOOHOO83]

I got divorced and a girlfreind asked to move in, shortly after that we started dating and going out no strings.
Since then the freindship has gotten intimate on a couple of situations.
We greatly enjoy each others company, live laugh and love.
She says she wouldn't want too lose me, by making it official.
Just wants to travel and enjoy life w me.
But won't have sex. What to do.
I'm not in the mood to be anybodies sugar daddy.

[CravenMorhead]

I hate to say it but you're the 'brother' she never had. First off though. Just because you live together and do stuff together doesn't give you any rights to sex. You don't deserve intimacy after doing stuff with her. That is her decision, not yours. Once you start to think that you're entitled to intimacy because of this you will wander into the territory of rapists and other abusers.

She's not interested in you romantically. This can be because you're pushing too hard for a relationship and she's feeling pressured so she's taking a little more time to decide or, and more likely, she's just not into you. You have a couple options. You can either ride it out in pleasure and frustration until she either decides it is too much and leaves or it falls apart for some reason. It is a fun ride and ride it out to the end, regardless of you being a sugar daddy or not. You could also start looking for a romantic relationship elsewhere. Not as a means of extorting some feelings from her, but for what you're looking for. You're not going to find it with her so you should find it with someone. Don't fixate on just one woman at this point, especially if she's not looking for anything from you that resembles a relationship.

Going forward, please remember that time spent and experiences with her doesn't entitle you to ANYTHING. Think it does will take you down a dark road.

[smoothy]

Move out... get your own place... start dating... and don't put this one ahaead of either your wishes are anyone you date.

THat will frame the friendship into more clear terms for both of you.

You can continue to be friends, when you have time... you are also free to pursue a real relationship with someone else.

But was was stated... there exists no right to sex... but complete lack of it might be grounds to get a marriage annulled, but in a friendship you are on your own. You have your hand... either to take care of your needs, or to open the door to leave.



A some point you will see this more clearly... and walk away... or see it more clearly and keep it to within the boundries better suited for a casual friendship.

[joypulv]

I'll be harsh (speaking as a woman): you are a fool to continue. You did ask a question, 'what to do,' but you already answered it by saying you don't want to be a sugar daddy. So... give her 30 days notice to LEAVE. If you fall for any sweet talk after that, you are an even bigger fool.

Many a married couple with a lot invested in home and children get counseling, and learn how to negotiate and compromise over things like sex, money, parenting, etc. But you just don't have any reason to do that.