[Linjiayue]

My boyfriend comes from China and he needs to go back to his country... we met in Switzerland and half year before he is going back I decided to break up with him because I love him too much and can't stand being with him with the thought he will leave me after forever...
We have been a perfect couple for six months. My parents also like him very much, all my friends said he is a great guy, so do I think. We loved and still love each other a lot... The problem is I can't go to China.. I have my reasons and can't go... but I also can't find a new boyfriend, I love my ex too much.. I even bought rings for us and I am not taking off mine. I wear it everyday as a sign I'm taken. Because in my heart it's true.. I already had one boyfriend after we broke up but I couldn't stand it... I was all the time thinking about my ex... love him too much... he hopes I can find a good man in the future but it's impossible for me... I don't know how to move on... I know we can't be together but I can't forget him, we were really perfect together.. we felt it and all people around also felt it. Btw I'm white he is asian.. but it worked awesome.. I don't know how to move on... I'm destroying my future like this.. I can't love another man..

[odinn7]

I'm not sure what your question is but...you will simply have to find a way to let go. He is gone, hanging onto thoughts of him forever and cutting yourself off from anyone else is not going to help you at all. We all face things that we need to get beyond and this is something you will need to find a way around.

How old are both of you anyway?

[Precious7]

Well, you said you decided to break up! But why if you love him sooo much? Its because he is going to China!
His family? So you say you can't go to china, you have some reasons for that and so may be you can think this in a same way with your BF, he can't stay here he has to return his country! He has his own reasons, right?
So either you empathize with him and the situation and continue the relationship long distance (because you both love each other sooo much) or after the break up which you've already done, move on!

[Fr_Chuck]

You never said, what he thought, or what he said.

Do you still talk... Is he very traditional Chinese? Or more Western?

What was his family issues. But yes, children are expected to come home and care for their family, it is common for a daughter (more often) to leave her husband and go back to her mother for months at a time, to care for them

A son, if working often does not go back, but will send extra money

But if you broke up with him, just because he was going back, you will have hurt him, if he did not agree, and also embarrassed him, by breaking up.

The silly ring means nothing, your actions seem to say, you really do not love him that much.

You said you can not go to China, sorry why?? I live here, have lived here for two year my friends visit. Some people live here on tourist visa's, just going out of country ever 90 days...

You seem to have reasons that are not as real as you pretend