[Scatterbolly]

He is my friend's ex and I have only seen him once for less than 5mins some time last year and apparently they broke up sometime back. So I spoke to him last week for the first time because of some misunderstanding that happened between me and my friend. Then he went away for easter holiday and yesterday my friend called me to tell me he had died. I cried so bad, had to smoke and couldn't even sleep. I like him so much I mean since the day I started to speak to him I just want to talk to him forever. Well she was lying that he is dead and she had made some claims so when I called him today in the morning he told me it was a lie, he hasn't spoken to her in a long time and I should actually call her and tell her I spoke to him. I like him so much we sms each other at night talk about different stuff and we have the same interests. I know its wrong but I can't get him off my mind.
What should I do?? ::confused:

[Capuchin]

What's more important to you, your friend or this guy?

[Scatterbolly]

The thing is my friend is not an honest person, she lies to everyone about anything no matter how useless. Which is why they had to end and which is why I'm speaking to this guy now its because of her lies that made us communicate. And truly at the moment HE is what I'm thinking about. She is of no help to me because she can still mess up with me so I'm not worried. I want him... help me know what to do to get him.

[talaniman]

How long have they been broken up?

[Scatterbolly]

Well I never asked him but my friend says they are still together, I know she is lying because there is so much I know about him now that she has no idea about. Like something happened to him last week that he told me about and when my friend told me they are still together I asked her about it and she had no clue and for people who are together she would have known definitely. He just said a while ago before christmas last year.

[Capuchin]

I think you need to give your friend time, forget about the guy for a while, unless you don't want to keep the friend.

[Scatterbolly]

Its not that easy, I mean I don't know why I'm so drawn to this guy it should be easy for me to forget about him I mean I don't even remember how he looks like I wouldn't even know him if I met him. But just talking to him takes me away beyond friendship, this should be unhealthy.

[talaniman]

You may be attracted to him, but that doesn't mean he is for you. Do you really need all this drama to get a dude you don't really know? Haven't you gotten a little carried away as he has made no move other than talking??

I think you should leave this alone before it blows up in your face.

[Scatterbolly]

I think you are right its not worth the drama that might come my way... I'm just being crazy I guess I just wish there was an easier way. I decided to erase his number before I know it by head. I need a drink.

[africanqueen]

he is my friend's ex and i have only seen him once for less than 5mins some time last year and apparently they broke up sometime back. so i spoke to him last week for the first time because of some misunderstanding that happened between me and my friend. then he went away for easter holiday and yesterday my friend called me to tell me he had died. i cried so bad, had to smoke and couldnt even sleep. i like him so much i mean since the day i started to speak to him i just want to talk to him forever. well she was lying that he is dead and she had made some claims so when i called him today in the morning he told me it was a lie, he hasnt spoken to her in a long time and i should actually call her and tell her i spoke to him. i like him so much we sms each other at night talk about different stuff and we have the same interests. i know its wrong but i can't get him off my mind.
What should i do???::confused:

Well if you and your so called best friend are really good friends shae would let you go out with him come on it's the past! How long ago was it when they broke up?

[NickkyJ13]

According to the Laws of Love, you must go with the one who was there first, Guys will be there forever. And just so you know, your not in Love with this guy. You just have an infatuation of/in him.

[sat_mat]

Hi ,
U just be as a friend to him that won't be a problem I guess.If you expect, your doing some bad then that is really wrong to do.
Ur the judge for your behaviour.
When your friend is not with him there might be some wrong with him.
Hope your friend is not good to him however if this guy is a good he should never make friend with the you(because your friend of her)A true friend never hurts some one even they depart.So there are many people in this world waiting 4u.

Bye all the best
Sat

[Scatterbolly]

She is not even my best friend and I mean they didn't even go out for over 2months. I'm glad you don't think that's bad but apparently the guys thinks I will say no because of my friend and I don't want to jump in and say yes I want you too. I like him and I don't want him to think we can't work.

[talaniman]

What a mess. Your friend obviuosly doesn't want you near this guy, but your talking anyway so be honest or keep going in this frustrating circle. Your friend has not been honest because she thinks he will be back, and you are not honest with him about how you feel, so can you see why this is a mess? Straghten this mess out with some honesty.

[john.mercer]

If she is not dating him anymore she should let you have your chance. This could be the person you settle down with and begin a family. If your friend want's to limit you from dating anyone she dated she should marry that person.