[luvabubble]

hey, me and my boyfriend have been friends since I was 8 and we have been girlfriend/boyfriend 4 times in this period. We have always been best of friends and always looked after each other. The other night I went through his phone and found messages and missed calls from a girl and I got upset about it even though the messages were not threatening at all. A day after that I saw condoms in his car(not used lol) and lipgloss in his room and I got a bit paranoid. I then made up an email address and pretenting to be a girl named shantell.
when shantell added him he sent shantell an email asking who she was and gave her his number and invited her to his party. A few nights after I got onto shantells account and said that I was interested in a one night stand with him and he replied asking for her asl and her picture etc. I then sent him a picture of a girl from school that no one barely talks to anymore. After I sent the picture my boyfriend said she was so sexy that he wanted to open her legs and make her scream for 2 weeks and a lot of other sexual stuff so I then replied as shantell saying I want to meet up and have a one night stand with him though he avioded the meeting up part and basically said he was hard and said what he wanted to do to shantell.
this hurt me as my boyfriend has never ever spoken like this before and he's a virgin. I didn't tell him that I was shantell or that I knew about it.
the next day me would message me as usual and I acted as if everything was normal but then I started getting snappy at him because I hate when he calls me babe because I feel like a product.
yesterday afternoon my boyfriend messaged me saying he wanted to get a new msn account as random people were emailing him and he mentioned shantell saying she was stalkin him. I then cut sick and broke up with him for lying as he was the one who said he wanted a one night stand with her and basically had cyber sex. After I broke up with him he called me over and over but I didn't pick up so he then started sending me text saying how good his and mine relation ship has been and saying how much he loves me and basically was manipulating me to try and get me back, but me have previous experiences I didn't buy it and I stayed strong and told him I wanted nothing to do with him.

after I said that he went onto his msn and blocked me but spoke to me being shantell saying that he had been thinking of her all day and that he missed her and saying how hard she got him last night.. me as shantell then started asking questions about "me" and he got emotional to shantell saying he had lost his soul mate and that he needed an ego booster as he is bleedin inside and said that he will do anything to get me back and that he's not going to stop trying for the rest of his life as him and I are soul mates then he said sorry to shantell and that he just wants to be friends but now that he is single he wouldn't mind a root but when he gets me back he doesn't want anything to do with shantell anymore.
he also told shantell that he was a virgin and that he wanted to wait for a perfect time with me but he was willing to have a one night stand with shantell.
he is now saying he wants me back etc

I don't know what to do and why he is doing this considering it was so hard for me to agree to be his girlfriend as I have my trust issues. I really don't know if he is worth giving him a second shot and I feel bad that I was pretending to be shantell. What should I do? Its like he has two personalities.. and I really do love him but loving him makes it easier to hate him therefore easier to let go... but I wnted to marry him and have a future with him..

I don't kow

help!

[talaniman]

"Oh what a tangled web we weave, when we practice to deceive!" Both you losers should break up, and get honest with yourselves, and work hard to solve your own issues. First and foremost, come clean and tell him the whole sad story. Then I hope you two get the help you need. Sorry, there is nothing healthy or honest, caring or loving about this relationship, or your actions.

[Lillian42]

Follow ol dudes advice break up and BOTH get help!!

[sypher373]

I agree with Tal,

Playing games is immature and really shows the character you both have towards each other. Open and honest communication would have been the best option to solve your original problem, though it seems that neither of you are ready for that.

You need to mature a bit before pursuing a serious relationship.