[renee_vega]

My boyfriend made me delete all of my social media and change my number. He doesn't like any of my friends because they are affiliated with my ex so he says I can't talk to them he made me block and delete all of their numbers. These are some of my bestfriends and I haven't talked to them in months. He won't allow me to dress a certain way he gets mad over everything I do. Once in a while he reactivates my Facebook to read old messages with me and my ex or other people and he compares them to our relationship then he ends things with me because of the person he thinks I was. I literally feel like I am a terrible person I have lost myself. I don't know what to do because I love him and I don't know how I will ever get back to the woman I was

[Curlyben]

WHY are you tolerating this behaviour ?!?!

[Oliver2011]

You don't have a boyfriend. You have a boss. A master.

Controlling behaviors get worse as the "relationship" goes on. Do yourself a favor and move on.

[smoothy]

You should have told him to go pound sand. I wouldn't walk away from a person like that... I'd RUN.

THis has control freak written all over it.

[Fr_Chuck]

Just tell him no, turn your Facebook back on. Talk to your friends.

Do not let him have the pass code and do not let him tell you who to talk to.

I agree, you should have left him, ( after laughing at him) the first time he demanded anything like that.

[odinn7]

Holy crap...why would you put up with this? This guy is a controlling and abusive jerk. You actually let him tell you that you can't be friends with people? Tell him to take off. Stand up for yourself and get rid of him.

You said you feel like you have lost yourself....getting rid of him will help you find yourself again. Don't put up with being treated this way.

[Jake2008]

He has taken over your life. He has decided who you can or cannot associate with, what you can and cannot do, what you wear, how you behave, etc. He likely knows where you are every second of the day, and if you don't conform to all his expectations and demands, he gets angry, and blames you, for his anger.

Behaviour like this is called controlling. There is no amount of 'proof' you can provide to a man who feels you 'belong' to him, completely. Controllers feel that if you cannot be controlled, then they just try harder, make more demands, ensure that you are demoralized, depersonalized, and completely dependent upon him, to provide any affection or attention.

You walk on egg shells because you don't know when he's going to turn, or you worry that y ou haven't done enough. The floors didn't get washed, or you met an old friend for lunch on the sly and worry that he may have found out. He'll start checking the mileage on your car, and maybe put a GPS device in it.

You cannot out fox him. And if you do, once again, the consequences will become more and more severe.

No matter what you do, you are at fault, and not good enough, and you don't love him if you don't submit and become completely complacent with his demands and expectations.

And what you lose, is what you've already said. You lose yourself.

This will NOT get better. It will get WORSE. The signs and symptoms are clearly there for you to see.

Gather yourself up, realize you are with a ticking time bomb who will stop at nothing to control you, and get the hell out.

Now.

[dontknownuthin]

You have described an abusive man to perfection. This kind of behavior is never satisfied . He will never trust you enough. It is a matter of time before he stalks everything you do and escalates to physical violence. Break up and don't even consider talking to him again. Do NOT break up in person. He could become dangerous. Stay with someone and don't tell him where you are going. Change all your passwords. Change your phone number. Be done.

[DoulaLC]

Do you love him or are you afraid of change?

Why do you love him? Because he has made you give up your best friends? Because he won't ALLOW you to wear what you want? Because he ends things with you after rehashing things from your past over and over? Because he makes you feel like a terrible person? Because he gets mad over everything you do? Does that all sound like love to you?

As everyone has said... make a plan, don't let him know about it, and get away. You deserve so much better, but you won't have it until you end this. Contact some of those best friends....you will want their support.

[talaniman]

Run like hell away from him. That not love, its... CRAZY!!

[Studs ad]

I would say initially run and don't look back, but there is a caveat to all this. If you don't like who you were then you have to change something. I don't like the sounds of your BF telling you how to run your life, but in the same breath if you are trying to change, going back to your old ways and sometimes friends and places you visited don't help in the changing process. There is an adage that " a dog returns to its vomit". I am in no way comparing you to a dog, but I have seen so many young girls marry some creep and then after he beats the crap out of her physically or emotionally she leaves him. Two weeks later she is shacked up with the guys social and emotional twin, which leaves her right back where she started. Sweety, I am an old duffer and I mean old. If you really want a new life then go out and get one, but don't go back to the things and places and people that helped take you down in the first place. A fresh start is just what it says fresh, new, different, sustainable, rewarding and on and on. Good luck!