[azangel53]

Met online initially, long distance, then met in person mid Feb. He asked me to date exclusively and came to stay with me for a week. We found we are very compatible and he told me he loves me, but that was after he had been drinking heavily. He went home, still texts me a couple times a day, and we still skype, but last night I told him I thought we may have moved a little too fast, he asked what I meant by that. I told him that I got the impression from him that he felt we were moving a little too fast, but then again it was he who was talking about his spending winters with me here in Phoenix and I spending the summers with him on the pacific coast.

I just said perhaps we both got a little wrapped up in it all and a little carried away, he agreed and said yes, he felt we were moving a little too fast. So I told him I was slowing the bus down a little and he seemed relieved. He wants me to visit him mid June, which I will do. I told him lets just take one day at a time and enjoy our journey. I feel I did the right thing. At the end of our conversation, he said he loved me, but as he has explained before, he says he loves me, but is not yet in love with me. lol, what is a girl to believe? He told me his ex wife broke his heart, and it is hard for him to open it up easily.

What path from here should I take?

[smoothy]

He wants sex now first and foremost... but doesn't want the relationship that should go with it. Stick by your beliefs. Or you end up being his sex toy, and maybe even baby-momma. And single parent.

As a man speaking here... proceed cautiously... I get bad vibes about him from this.

[Oliver2011]

Run!

Controlling behaviors get worse and worse as time goes on and on. If my partner told me the "I love you" a week or month after we met, I would have said "You can't possibly because we don't know each other."

Just my humble opinion but I would move on...

[Homegirl 50]

He's telling you he loves you already? That is a big red flag. I would not go any further with him. You not only need to slow it down, you need to halt.

[talaniman]

Enjoy the lust and see what happens. Hope you can put your heart in a safe place just in case after the lust is gone, there is no love. I highly suspect he is cool with just lust. In any event don't get too carried away by the lust, and think its more.

You cool with that? If not, stop all the lust! Just date.

[tickle]

He is looking for a free ride at your emotional expense.

[talaniman]

At the end of our conversation, he said he loved me, but as he has explained before, he says he loves me, but is not yet in love with me. lol, what is a girl to believe?

Man talks with lower head. Woman hears with heart.

[Cat1864]

How long had you been talking on-line before meeting in person?

It seems like he is agreeing to go along with your wishes. I am not certain if either of you truly know what you want or how to work together to figure it out. When you told him you wanted to slow things down, did you discuss it with him or tell him what you thought he wanted? What do you want?

I see a lot of confusion and possibly miscommunication. He may have issues with fully explaining his feelings. But I haven't seen you say that you want more or what you feel. If anything you seem to be the one holding back while he is reaching out and making light of his emotions to keep from scaring you off.

Do you want to continue the 'one day at a time' seeing where things go while building a relationship or do you want to walk away?