[sadface]

Yesterday my husband and I got in a heated argument...

My question is not related to the argument however last week my husband went out alone with his mates, and then on Sunday told me he is going out to watch some car stunt show this weekend. Getting a little annoyed thinking (what about me) I nicely asked if I could join and he said SURE (great)

Well, as we had our argument last night and tonight we were meant to watch this car stunt show... should I still go? Or leave him to go alone? And do I have a kind of obligation to ask him to NOT go out after for a drink or two seeing as he went out last weekend?

I honestly don't fancy spending a night in alone and mostly because he went out last weekend with his friends :/

Also, last weekend when he went out in the evening, he said I was out too all afternoon, however I don't categorize going out in afternoon with kids and moms in same category as in evening in a bar drinking ?

[Fr_Chuck]

Why do you not go out with him more. And yes this is related to the argument. Mot arguments are over in a few hours, and couples are making up??

[sadface]

No argument was nothing to do wit this. We have a child so to go out together we need to arrange sitter...

[joypulv]

I'm not sure why you start with the argument that has nothing to do with these nights out? Or why you want us to tell you if you should go with him, based on the fact that you had some mysterious argument?

I see this as an issue that needs to be addressed in general - a mother home with a small child vs a husband freewheeling out with his mates at night. I agree that your afternoons out with other moms and children is just an extension of babysitting.

I suggest a sit down with him at a quiet time to work out an actual concrete plan for days out, nights out, how late, stops at bars, nights out together with a sitter at home, and so on, per month. It doesn't have to sound like he's a teenager being grounded. It's two parents making sure they maintain a happy marriage. If you think it might help, get 2 of his male friends and 2 of your female friends to arbitrate and keep it humorous. Then put the schedule on the fridge and joke about it.