What should I believe

careful · Apr 11, 2007, 05:38 AM

I have been with a boy for over a year now and currently we do not go together. We have been going through our problems but our love won't let us separate. We have a saying to see whether we are telling the truth or not. We were having a conversation and I asked him to put it on his life that he didn't talk to anyone else and he got very quiet. I began to get very upset because I figured that he was talking to another girl. He got mad at me because he said that I was jumping to conclusions just because he didn't answer me but I didn't want to hear it. I began to ask him all types of questions like who is the girl, how old is she, what's her name, and if they had sexual intercourse. He hung up on me and we began to text because he told me that he didn't want to hear my mouth. The next day while I was a school we were texting and I brought it back up again and he told me that I need to let him explain. He told me about a girl that liked him and he tole me that she recently began to try to talk to him because they were friends before he found out she liked him. He said that he told her that he didn't like her that and that he was still in an relationship. He said that he didn't put it on his life because he didn't know of the other girl was telling people that they talked and he didn't want me to get upset if she did. My question is should I believe that he is not talking to her or should I still be curious about the question.

Krs · Apr 11, 2007, 05:43 AM

Do you trust him?
And what question are u talking about?

robertsqueen · Apr 11, 2007, 07:37 AM

If you are questioning if you should believe him... then there is no trust.. therefore there is no relationship.

alizeblu · Apr 11, 2007, 08:04 AM

Bottom line why are you on here asking us questions??

Because you have "doubts" about him.

If that's the case, there goes trust right out the window.

If its true love there should be no doubts, none.

So you already know what you have to do now don't you?

But you don't want to believe it do you?

Which is why you're still on here asking us what you should do about him.

This thing right here-->love<-- its going to blind you and cloud your judgement.

If I was you, I wouldn't go searching for trouble, you might not like what you find.

Just enjoy what you have right now. It'll be over soon.

talaniman · Apr 11, 2007, 09:09 AM

Insecure, jealous people have the ability to make a mountain out of a mole hill. Accusing some one of something with no facts behind it is the same as pulling a shot gun out and running them off your property. How long before you run this guy away. Why can't you discuss your feelings honestly like a civil human being who cares and needs answers to understand? The drama is so unnecessary and as you can see, ain't working.

careful · Apr 12, 2007, 05:18 AM

Originally Posted by Krs

Do you trust him?
and what question are u talkin about?

Yes I trusr him BUT sometimes he gives me reasons not to trust him. Like he could have told me from the beginning what was going on until waiting to the next day.It made me seem like he had to thnk of and excuse.He says that he didnt tell me because I was getting on his nerves and was making a big deal about it.But how can I not make a big deal when I have my doubts about things.

talaniman · Apr 12, 2007, 05:37 AM

Sometimes it's the way you approach people that matters. Learn t communicate your feelings better.

Krs · Apr 12, 2007, 05:39 AM

Originally Posted by careful

Yes I trusr him BUT sometimes he gives me reasons not to trust him. Like he could have told me from the beginning what was going on until waiting to the next day.It made me seem like he had to thnk of and excuse.He says that he didnt tell me because I was getting on his nerves and was making a big deal about it.But how can I not make a big deal when I have my doubts about things.

I think you both need to communicate better towards each other.

However just because he didn't tell you straight away doesn't mean anything! He probably could have also wanted you to chill out abit, maybe he was scared of your reaction.

alizeblu · Apr 12, 2007, 11:58 AM

Originally Posted by careful

Yes I trusr him BUT sometimes he gives me reasons not to trust him. Like he could have told me from the beginning what was going on until waiting to the next day.It made me seem like he had to thnk of and excuse.He says that he didnt tell me because I was getting on his nerves and was making a big deal about it.But how can I not make a big deal when I have my doubts about things.

You said BUT, there's your answer.