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    Apr 23, 2014, 09:23 PM
    Long distance relationship help
    I have been in relationship with a guy for the past five years and in long distance relationship with the same guy for the past 3 years. He studies abroad so he never came to meet me even one in these 3 years. However in all these years I have been pushing him up to even speak to me. I attempted to break up many times but he goes crazy and does all sorts of things to patch up again. And once I patch up, he does not bother to message or talk to me anytime. And in these 5 years he never gave me anything, not even a gift card. Every time I want to talk to him he sends me a text asking me to call him or gives a missed call but never calls me. I am so confused as to what I should do . Should I continue or should I break up? If I have to break up then how should I do it as I tried all ways to break up but failed. I am really confused as I don't know where this relationship is taking us. Plus he enver even plans or thinks to meet me. If I talk about our meeting then he wants to have sex and tells it to me openly (I am still a virgin. Please help me decide if I should be with him.
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    Apr 23, 2014, 09:28 PM
    Are you serious? You don't have a relationship. You are part of a game he's playing. You tell him you're done and remove him from any method he has of contacting you.
    Why would you spend all this time with someone you don't even see and who treats you so poorly? You can't possibly be happy, why do you think you should be with him?
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    Apr 23, 2014, 09:29 PM
    So you're not happy with him and I can kind of see why, but you feel trapped.

    Break up with him. Why is that so hard? Tell him it's over and be done with it. He's not around you so what can he possibly do that would affect you in such a way as when you say "he goes crazy and does all sorts of things" ? Just tell him it's over and don't answer his calls, emails, or texts. Ignore him and move on.
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    Apr 24, 2014, 05:04 AM
    What's wrong? Are ou so unattractive to people you can't find or have a relationship with someone local to you? I find that is the case for essentially nobody. Everyone can find a real person near them and not on some pseudo-relationship on the computer with someone a very long way away. And even worse subject themselves to a long distance head game like this.

    You do realise you could have had a real relationship all these years without involving a computer or telephone. If you had you both would have been much happier.

    Long distance relationships are the things desperate people cling to when there is no real good reason. You aren't married to each other and he's not away earning money to support you and your ten kids. THerefor there is no excuse to be having a long distance relationship at all. You are free to find someone near you.
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    Apr 24, 2014, 05:08 AM
    Are you kidding me?

    Newsflash - That's not a relationship. How do you fail at breaking up with someone when all you have to do is not turn on your computer?
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    Apr 24, 2014, 07:03 AM
    How old are you both, and what have you tried so far (no doubt, empty words with no action). Like the others have said, cut ALL ways he can contact you, whatever it takes. I mean ask yourself why you allow this kind of abuse from someone you haven't seen in person in 3 years?

    That's crazy to be a slave like that. YOU are not being good to yourself.

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