[breee12d]

Well, me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 , almost 4 years and i wanted to buy him something diff from jewelery & clothes , weve have alot of ups and downs , i just wanna make up all those bad times for more good times why we still continue this relationship , soo can anyone give me some ideas? Please & thank you (:

[odinn7]

A Porsche would probably be appreciated.

[Wondergirl]

If your relationship is in trouble, no gift will "make" him happy. Gifts don't mean there are good times ahead. Now, think about it. What can you two do to avoid those "downs"?

[joypulv]

His favorite meal. Almost as good as a Porsche.

(Of course, I agree with Wondergirl.. )

[odinn7]

The problem here really is that not only did Wondergirl give you a very good answer but...we don't know you or him. We have no idea what he likes or doesn't like. We could not possibly come up with an idea for a gift. But really, a gift in this situation, is not really the answer to your problems.

[breee12d]

Okay , thanks... but I guess that means the same for every other person that has asked a question like this , or similar to this question , I wasn't being rude when I asked the question , so no need to give a rude response .

[odinn7]

So, after reading this question and the answers again, I failed to see where there was a rude response. I'll check again....no, still don't see it. If, by rude you mean that I gave you a straight answer instead of the one you wanted to hear then sure, I was rude. The fact is...we don't know either of you so we don't know what he would like. We have no idea of your ages, or your interests. We don't know where you live or what you do. So where does that leave us? it leaves us with you being the best judge of what he might like.

And again, giving him something is not the solution to the real problem here.

Sorry you thought I was rude...many people decide an answer is rude if it isn't the one they wanted to hear.

[kat4rat]

In my case I made key chain with written on a rice name of both of us

[Cat1864]

Okay , thanks... but I guess that means the same for every other person that has asked a question like this , or similar to this question , I wasn't being rude when I asked the question , so no need to give a rude response .

In a way it does mean the same for others who have asked this question. As has been pointed out, we do not know you or him. You haven't even given ages to know what would be age appropriate gifts.

If your relationship has had ups and downs, then perhaps a good gift would be the gift of time and understanding. Sitting down together and working through the past, letting it go and discussing ways to improve your relationship as it grows.

Understand that if you want to give a gift from the heart, it has to be your heart. It has to be with knowledge of the person that we do not have such as any allergies or major dislikes. If you want to give a gift that symbolizes your love and moving forward, it has to mean something to you and him. It has to be personal between the two of you.

If he is unhappy, a gift won't make him happy or keep him with you. A gift given in an attempt to keep someone is not a gift. It is little more than an attempt to buy more time with him.

Look at why you want to give him a gift. If it is because you love him and want to show your feelings, then look at what he likes and dislikes. Use that knowledge to craft a gift that holds meaning for both of you. For example: If he likes music, give him a cd with songs that express your feelings.

[breee12d]

I did that lol & he broke it but thank you.

[breee12d]

Cat 1864... Thank you , you undertsood what I meant, not what I WANTED TO HEAR , & yes its because I love him & care about him. I appreciate everything you said.