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ttango · Apr 10, 2007, 09:33 AM

I have been in a 4 yr relationship with a 24 yr ols girl I love so much.Its been a long distance relationship for like 2yrs now,we have been through ups and downs like any other relationship.But only recently we had an argument ,we stopped talking for like a week or 2 afterwich I called and apologized.She said she was low emotionally and would like to take a walk.We talked about it and she decide to give it a rethink .I love this girl so much and have even decided to marry her... She has been acting rather strange after the argument,giving me cold shoulders whenever I call.She hasn't asked me to give her space but I can see that coming... As we all know ,no one likes rejections,I would just like things to return to normal or better still know where we are heading...

I would like to know if I should give her space or pretend everything is cool and see how it goes .

Adoredevotion · Apr 10, 2007, 03:01 PM

Maybe you should confront her about your fears... open and honest communication is really the only effective way to solve these types of issues. Are you two still living long distance and is there any possiblitily of narrowing that distance?

Sincerely,

Adoredevotion

ttango · Apr 11, 2007, 02:07 AM

Thanks Adoredevotion for your reply.. We should be ending the long distance run in a few months,because she should be moving over to the uk where I'm based.. Well I don't what are plans are now...

Thanks

ttango

Krs · Apr 11, 2007, 04:57 AM

I have been in a long distance relationship also.. I am now married to him :D

My advice on long distance relationships.. for them to work either one of you has to move near the other.. it won't work other wise.

We did 1 whole yr apart which was the worst yr, just seeing each other every 3 months, you just can't carry on like that.

COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY

talaniman · Apr 11, 2007, 05:42 AM

I just don't believe a long distance relationship can be maintained over time, as its just to hard to be away from a person and not be frustrated to some degree. Plus one partner or the other invest so much emotion into this relationship and has such high expectations that things usually come crashing down when their needs are not met. Honest communication only goes so far to fill the gaps that distance makes, so being together a lot more is the way to go. Face to face talking and listening. I wouldn't make any long term plans until the short term ones are resolved and two people have a chance to get on the same page.

Adoredevotion · Apr 11, 2007, 02:32 PM

No prob hope all turns out well keep us updated ;)

ttango · Apr 12, 2007, 11:35 AM

Hello folks
Still not getting anywhere with my gurlfriend.I have tried my best,phone calls and text messages,sleepless nights and heartache .Well I guess it's a case of "qui sera sera".I shall give her all the space I can,maybe look at meeting other people to get my mind of her...
I have a lot coming up at the moment(exams and work).. Therefore I can' t afford to go wrong...
This is where I have got to ,I might be wrong,your comments are welcome,who knows...
Hope to hear from you guys .
Ciao

Adoredevotion · Apr 12, 2007, 02:17 PM

Well I know this must be hard for you... and all that anyone can say to you will be so cliché. Do what you need to do to get yourself through this and time heals all and also reveals all.

"If you love something let it go. If it comes back it’s yours. If it doesn’t it was never meant to be.”

Sincerely,
Adoredevotion