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sweetboobie · Apr 12, 2014, 06:25 AM

Hello I have a question?

My boyfriend of (4years) got drunk at the club on Friday January 24, 2014 he got so drunk he doesn't remember calling me or talking to me then he said he cheated (he never cheated before first time) but don't remember what happen! Saturday January 25, 2014. Okey and now we are in April and the girl (she was drunk too) is now saying she is 2-3months pregnant but don't know if it's my boyfriend or her BOYFRIEND? Oh yea she has a boyfriend also and it hurts my feelings just thinking about it.

J_9 · Apr 12, 2014, 06:28 AM

I'm sorry, but there is no way to know who the father of the baby is until after the baby is born and a DNA test is done.

talaniman · Apr 12, 2014, 07:12 AM

Waiting to see who the real father is will strain both relationships, which is understandable, and I imagine it's hard to deal with the waiting, AND the drunken cheating that started this mess. Hard to separate the two issues so whether in time can you forgive or move on from this together is the real issue, even if he is the father.

I take it you only found out about the cheating after he found out he may be a father. I don't want to assume he told you right after it happened, so please clarify.

sweetboobie · Apr 13, 2014, 10:34 AM

He told me he slepted with someone else right after he did it but he don't know what happen he said he all he remembers is walking in saying happy birthday to his friend and waking up mind you my boyfriend is not a drinker so how does he know is he cheated or not??

talaniman · Apr 13, 2014, 11:04 AM

So all you have is the word of a pregnant female, and no way of knowing the truth until a DNA test can be performed. Hope for the best and plan for the worst and see if you can work things out for now. I see no quick fix or good advice other than give yourself time to collect your wits, and deal with your own feelings at this time.

Wish I had more but this is only the beginning I think of many hard decisions you will have to make. I think it best to remove yourself from the whole situation and give thought to what you want, and what you can honestly handle and let the other concerned parties deal with their own issues for a while.

I wouldn't even know where to begin if I were in your shoes, but a impartial third party to just listen while you vent may be where to start. Do you have someone that fits that bill, friend, family, neighbor that you trust?