[rt2007]

I have been involved with my girlfriend for six years and I think that we may have reached the point of no return?

My story goes like this. I met my sweet heart back on April 6th 2001, I feel in love with her when I first met her and we been together every since.

For the first two years it seen to me that I was living in paradise. Please believe me when I say, I die and went to heaven. I was in love and still I'm.

There was nothing that would not do for her. Even on our early day of our relationship we could overcome any problems we would find ways to make each other happy.

Now here is were all started to fall apart. On about 2004 we have developed a cycle of brake ups and make ups. Every time we had a problem we would break up and of course we would make up, we would be Ok for a while and then something would happen and sure enough we would do it again and again. A non healthy relationship was growing. All that we have done was to sweep our problems under the rug and never really dealt with the issue at hand.

Now, March seventh two thousand and seven. I leave for out of town on the way to the airport we had a fight. We said stuff that we shouldn't have said, she called me back to say that she wanted me to have a safe flight and I reply by saying thank you for the call.

I get to my destination and called her to let her know that I have arrived safely, no answer, so I left a message at work, latter on the day I called back again and no answer. Two days go by and I finally on Friday I get a call from her. We spoke for about ten minutes and I said that I would call back, but I did not until I got back home on Monday.

When I got back I called and she let me know that she was not very happy with me, so I answer her with Ok fine, by now a week has going by and I thought that I should call to see what's is going on between us. As you can imagine the news that I was giving was that we are no longer together. I was devastated by the news. So I get into the saving the relationship mode once again.

So we go true a series of arguments and more fights, she assures me that she will never be with me again, that she loathes me, and so on and so fort

I had no choice but to wait for the situation to settle down.

I find out from her that she is already seen other people and that she likes what she is doing. She has told me about this other man that is relentlessly perusing her, where they been what they done.

By now she is beginning to accept some kind of communication with me. But she still try to avoid me at all cost except when I intersect her for a moment. Obviously I keep after her so that she will not forget that I'M still here and I want to resolve our differences. Not to bore you with my story .

Now we have gotten to the point were she has asked me for time to think about what she wants. I assured her that we can resolve our problems as long as we both want to. Whether she comes back I have made the decision to change for my own emotional health. I have conveyed this to her but her answer is that she as heard this before and she still time. She said that she has a good idea as to what to expect from us because she has lived with for four years with this volatile relationship. I would like to find the solution to our problem

I do not want to push her away but I find myself wanting her more and more every day and I feel that if I have a chance to get our relationship on the right track I might be losing ground.

I need to figure out how to save my relationship if there is anything left to save or how do I deal with the fact that she is gone for good.

We have agreed to talk on the 23rd of this month - my thoughts are that I will ask for more time and not talk about us but instead talk about how she is doing.

It's this the right thing to do and if so how should I react to her if she tell me that it is over for good or that she may still need additional time?

Please some one give me advice. Please

[chuff]

I think you should let her contact you on the 23rd, and let her know that you now want 3 months away from her as you like the time along and you are able to finally able to do some things for yourself that you have been neglecting.

Other than that I would warn you that she's been thinking about breaking up for at least a year. The fact that she is interested in other men so soon tells me she left this relationship on a emotional level long ago.

So you need not to try and work things out with her but disappear to make her miss you and realize what she's taken for granted.

[rt2007]

I think you should let her contact you on the 23rd, and let her know that you now want 3 months away from her as you like the time along and you are able to finally able to do some things for yourself that you have been neglecting.

Other than that I would warn you that she's been thinking about breaking up for at least a year. The fact that she is interested in other men so soon tells me she left this relationship on a emotional level long ago.

So you need not to try and work things out with her but disappear to make her miss you and realize what she's taken for granted.

When we agreed to talk on the 23rd she said for me to call her at home.

What do you think?

[chuff]

when we agreed to talk on the 23rd she said for me to call her at home.

what do you think??

Of course she did. That puts her in control. She wants you to call her, that's on her terms. I would say don't even call her. Let her know by not calling her that you are not going to be available to her when she dictates.

To be honest, I don't think she'd call you the week after the 23rd but if she did, just tell her you were busy and didn't have time. Then excuse yourself and let her think about it for awhile. Let her know you've got other things going on and that will totally surprise her. She will suddenly realize your not so available to her. She will suddenly realize your stronger then she gave you credit for.

That being said, I don't think she'll call you, she's acting like she's in control and calling all the shots. So if she's telling you to call her on the 23rd don't. In fact don't call her at all. She thinks she knows you after 6 years, and she probably does, but show her a different side or someone she won't be expecting. That will get her wondering just like your doing.