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Noone2014 · Mar 25, 2014, 09:28 AM

I haven't done anything, it's just hard to explain. I don't want her to find out. I'm trying to protect her I hate that it has ended up like this it's all my fault . I've sat her all night trying to think of what to say to her without being to open. I wish she was as smart as you say then I wouldn't be here. I need to just step out of my head for a while wish I could sleep

smoothy · Mar 25, 2014, 09:32 AM

SHe'll only be more pis sed off the longer it takes for her to find out. And she will find out.

This is one of those times sooner is better.

Wondergirl · Mar 25, 2014, 09:36 AM

Originally Posted by Noone2014

I haven't done anything, it's just hard to explain. I don't want her to find out.

Find out what? Hey, we and you are anonymous here, so run it past us to find out how horrible whatever this is is. We're moms and dads, many with grown kids who've survived despite our parenting (and we have survived their teenage years). Give us a chance. We can figure out how well your mum can handle whatever it is.

Homegirl 50 · Mar 25, 2014, 09:49 AM

Run it past us. It maybe something you don't need to tell her anyway so you're stressing out for nothing. Does it have to do with her and her partner?

Noone2014 · Mar 25, 2014, 10:05 AM

It's him her partner I hate him he makes me sick. My mum and sister went away for the weekend she had gymnastics comp. I wanted to stay I had a soccer game on that weekend he said he would look after me. It was Friday I'd had a few drinks with friends was a little drunk didn't think it would matter mum was away thought I could just go home sleep it of he was so mad he slapped me and yelled at me j went to my room and he came up hugged me said he was sorry for getting so mad. He kissed me I tried to stop him but I couldn't I frigging hate him. He's always watching me touching me when mums not looking I lock my room at night so nothing will ever ever happen again. But he makes her happy she was so sad when dad left and she's finally happy now I won't ruin that for her. So I don't talk I've never said anything to anyone. I don't even know why I have wrote it here but I feel a bit better at least someone else knows

Wondergirl · Mar 25, 2014, 10:15 AM

Originally Posted by Noone2014

I don't even know why I have wrote it here but I feel a bit better at least someone else knows

Thank you. Now we understand where you are coming from and what is torturing you. There are some really terrific members on this site who will do their best to help you figure out how to deal with this and where to go from here. Some of us have been in the same or similar situations where trust has been broken and someone who should have been taking care of us or our child has broken that trust. Please stick with us! (***ADDED*** You are an amazing daughter!)

Noone2014 · Mar 25, 2014, 10:49 AM

Was looking for some ideas to help me get some sleep. I'm lucky if I sleep for a hours a night and that's usually because I'm so tired I just pass out. Thanks

Wondergirl · Mar 25, 2014, 11:12 AM

Some nights I cannot turn off my mind, my thoughts. Is that your problem too?

Noone2014 · Mar 25, 2014, 11:33 AM

Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Some nights I cannot turn off my mind, my thoughts. Is that your problem too?

Yes everything just runs through my head I try really hard to read a book or listen to music but I find myself reading but not even k owing what I've read or hearing the music but not really listening. I've tried to just clear my mind and think of nothing but that never happens things are constantly popping into my head

Homegirl 50 · Mar 25, 2014, 11:34 AM

Your mom might suspect something already, but I can tell you she will be more upset if you do not tell her this kind of person is around her daughters and has hurt one of them.
You need to tell her.

Noone2014 · Mar 25, 2014, 11:47 AM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Your mom might suspect something already, but I can tell you she will be more upset if you do not tell her this kind of person is around her daughters and has hurt one of them.
You need to tell her.

If I don't tell her then she will never know, she is so happy you don't understand she was so sad when dad left and it just got worse when he got remarried and had a new baby. Then he came along and made her so happy she never use to smile now she does when he's around now I'm the only thing that makes her upset, and I understand why now by not talking to anyone I've made her upset. I know I need to start talking to her be a normal person I just need to figure out how to do that without messing everything up for her.

smoothy · Mar 25, 2014, 11:52 AM

Lack of sleep over a long enough period causes stress and can even make you see things that aren't there. Meaning it will eventually alter your perception of reality if it occurs long enough.

Homegirl 50 · Mar 25, 2014, 11:59 AM

Your happiness and well being is more important to her than he is. And just think how horrible she will feel if she finds out you did not trust her enough to tell her, or he looks at your sister. This kind of thing needs to be told. She is a grown woman and will deal with it better than you think, she will surly deal better than you are.
Tell her. She needs to know. This guy is a creep and does not deserve your mother. Do this for her.

Cat1864 · Mar 25, 2014, 12:00 PM

The threads are now merged.

The reasons for the inability to go to sleep or stay asleep are as important as ways to improve your sleep patterns.

Noone2014 · Mar 25, 2014, 12:09 PM

I don't know it's all a bit too much for me to deal with at the moment. Thank you for all your help you have given me even more to think about I'm sure I'll figure something out has been good talking to people has been a while since I've had a conversation. I'm just not ready to make her be even more upset because of me

Homegirl 50 · Mar 25, 2014, 12:12 PM

Give your mother some credit. A man like this is a creep. Is this what you want for your mother?

Wondergirl · Mar 25, 2014, 12:15 PM

Originally Posted by Noone2014

I'm just not ready to make her be even more upset because of me

Not because of you. Isn't HE the problem? Reread what Homegirl wrote.

Noone2014 · Mar 25, 2014, 12:20 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Give your mother some credit. A man like this is a creep. Is this what you want for your mother?

I just want her to be happy, I use to hear her cry at night she wouldn't even get out of bed in the mornings for ages. Now she's not like that anymore she's happy. Which makes my sister happy and I don't want to change that.

Homegirl 50 · Mar 25, 2014, 12:28 PM

What if this man goes to your sister? Your mother is not that happy because she knows something is going on with you. This type of man will not make your mother happy for long. Do you really want your mother to be with a man like this? Don't you think she has a right to know what kind of man he is? You have no right to make this decision for her. She needs to know.

Noone2014 · Mar 25, 2014, 12:41 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

What if this man goes to your sister? Your mother is not that happy because she knows something is going on with you. This type of man will not make your mother happy for long. Do you really want your mother to be with a man like this? Don't you think she has a right to know what kind of man he is? You have no right to make this decision for her. She needs to know.

I'm not making decisions for her god I'm just so friggin confused. I don't think any of this has helped it's only made my head full now I feel so guilty. If I don't talk she is upset with me if I talk to her I destroy her life. I don't want him to go near my sister she is only 7 I don't think he would. How would I even tell her I just can't