[Tammie7860]

I'm fifteen years old and have four younger siblings. I'm the eldest. My moms a housewife and she just changed, I just don't know why. When I was small she was different, she was sooo calm and she didn’t stress about anything but since a year now my mom’s just isn’t the same person anymore. She screams and shouts at all of us siblings and at the smallest things, she gets frustrated so easily. I feel like she’s fed up of handling everything. I think it’s my dad’s fault, he always taunts my mom at the smallest things, he’s really short tempered, and always verbally abuses my mom. He expects dinner when he gets home, doesn’t help with the household, doesn’t like going on family outings, leaves his mess everywhere and is quite strict even with my mom, she’s lost her femininity, when he gets drunk it’s really bad he hits her as well. I think my mom’s depressed.

It’s always been like this, but it hasn’t affected my mom until now. She’s also just fed up of my siblings who annoy the out of her and stuff. They’ve been married for 17 years now, the only reason my mom’s with him is because for us kids, I feel like she’s just enduring it all and I feel so sorry for her but she won't talk to me because she doesn't want me to hate my dad, like uno lose respect for my dad , sometimes I think she’s so strong. My mom’s not an open person, she doesn’t like hugs so she doesn’t really like to talk about this kind of stuff. I have tried talking to her about why she screams now and her stressing before but she just thought I was pointing fingers at her. I try my best to help her out with chores and stuff but I’ve got exams coming up and jheez so stressed out. I don’t know what to do? I want my happy cheerful mom back and sorry about the ramble : /

[smearcase]

What are the ages of your siblings, and approx. age of Mom? Had she been married before or is this her first marriage?
Does your father drink every day?
I am not snooping and I am not an expert on this subject but I think if you answer some of these questions, you will get better opinions here.

[Tammie7860]

What are the ages of your siblings, and approx. age of Mom? Had she been married before or is this her first marriage?
Does your father drink every day?
I am not snooping and I am not an expert on this subject but I think if you answer some of these questions, you will get better opinions here.

I'm sixteen in May and after me is a brother who is 13, a sister 11, brother 10, and the littlest is 6. My mums 39 and yes this is her first marriage. No my dad doesn't drink everyday, he drinks at times so like twice a month maybe? I think I should talk to me dad, but no way, its scary, we're not close, I couldn't dare tell him to stop treating my mom like that.

Should I just focus on my exams and ignore them? But I seriously think mums got depression, should I tell her to go and see the doc for antidepressants? But then she's going to think I'm implying that she's a bad mother.. I just want to help her