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    Feb 18, 2014, 09:18 AM
    Im confused with this guy I like
    This guy and I have been liking each other for about 2 years now and he made me believe that he actually did like me but he tends to come in and out of my life quite a bit. I know he has gone through a lot but I know now he's starting to pull his life back together. He would always blow me off whenever I make plans with him but when he makes plans with me he comes through. It makes me irritated because he leads me on and then I know he is going to hit me up again sometime because this always happens and I can't help it because I really do like him and I don't know if he is just playing games or if he wants to be serious. Should I confront him about this behavior or should I just let it be. I'm not the kind of person who really shares how I feel. If I do should I text him it or should I ask to meet up because I don't know if he would actually come through with meeting up somewhere. I'm just scared he won't answer my questions but I want to get it off my chest. I just don't know if it's a good idea.
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    Feb 18, 2014, 09:25 AM
    He treats you the way you let him and keep coming back for more. If it bothers you tell him you don't like it and don't put up with it anymore.
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    Feb 18, 2014, 09:47 AM
    You are a convenient booty call... and you have demonstrated that you are happy with that for the last two years.

    It only continues as long as you allow it to continue. My advice is tell him its over... and then you go find someone a lot better. YOu know this is how he is... and he's not going to change... for long anyway.
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    Feb 18, 2014, 04:49 PM
    You make him a priority and he makes you an option. There is no excuse to allow him to treat you this way.
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    Mar 5, 2014, 08:59 PM
    I think he's taking you for granted. As hard as it can be, you should distance yourself from him. Do things that make you happy. I dated a Virgo man once who did this. I know you like him and it's hard to say no, but you deserve respect from someone who cares about you.
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    Mar 6, 2014, 12:34 AM
    You have three options,

    1. accept it and be a second or third place in his life.
    2. discuss it with him, ( not confront) and see if you can work though the problems.
    3. dump him, since he obviously does not care for you seriously.

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