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Cat1864 · Feb 26, 2014, 04:26 PM

I have once again merged your threads. I will ask again that you keep all questions about this relationship in this thread. It helps those giving you advice to know the background.

I understand a need to make plans and preparations in advance for a huge trip. However, I think you need to slow down just a bit.

You are all over the place. One day you want to be with her, the next you aren't happy. Now you want to plan for a year in the future. Make it through the next month or two of adjusting to being a couple and then decide.

talaniman · Feb 26, 2014, 04:54 PM

Can't you takes this one day at a time and relax and enjoy learning more about each other without the fear and insecurity? Get yourself under control why don't you.

smoothy · Feb 26, 2014, 05:13 PM

Man.. after seeing the all over the place posts now they have been combined... no way should she go anywhere with him... he sounds like he's desperate for anyone to be around him... I don't think he really has any business taking time off school and traveling at all... that takes having things seriously thought out and planned inadvance... and I see none of that having been done.

I've lived overseas... you don't do that without a plan or a job, and definately not without a really big wad of cash at your disposal....something very few young people have.... and you don't drag someone along you practically just met. That's a disaster waiting to happen... for both... not just one.

lrdlove · Feb 26, 2014, 05:27 PM

Ahh okay I understand where you are both coming from and respect it. I am from England, I take it you are US? Its not missing any school, we finish school at 18 in June and then have an option to take a year out before we both head to university. I will be studying sociology and her medicine from September 2015 but at different unis. We both have part time jobs and have earned the cash to travel for a month, perhaps New Zealand and then return home. It was just a thought... sorry I asked!

talaniman · Feb 26, 2014, 06:10 PM

Its not our permission you need but hers. So drop the defensiveness.

smoothy · Feb 26, 2014, 06:11 PM

Yes I'm from the USA... but I've traveled all over Europe... and I've lived in Italy for 6 years.. and I've spent a month in Europe every year for the last 23 years. I have a property there and three motorcycles I have registered there and pay road taxes on there.

Lots that can go wrong... its stressful enough traveling with someone you're married to.. or even a family member. With someone you barely know... things can get really bad really fast, and it could do it really easy. Trust me... been there, done that... and I dated her for well over a year beforehand. It got bad enough I had to send her on her way almost 2,000 miles from home before we both ended up in jail.