[Br0wnEyedGirl]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. I am the first girl he's ever lived with. That being said, our sex life sucks. I don't feel wanted at all. I always feel like I'm initiating. He frequently declines offers for couple showers or other advances. When we do have sex it's always hard and fast. My self-esteem can't handle too much more. What do I do?

[joypulv]

I am always so puzzled by someone asking what to do when a relationship is awful. What is keeping you there? Is he threatening to kill your family if you leave? Obviously not, but I said that to make a point: you are free to leave and be comfortable with just yourself for a while. You don't have to stay with him, and you don't have to have a man to replace him. Enrich your own life with learning and friends and hobbies and wait to see who you meet down the line.

[talaniman]

You can't talk and work it out? Is that the only thing in this relationship you are unhappy about?

[Homegirl 50]

Have you talked to him about this? If you can't talk to him, you don't need to be living with him and having sex with him.

[Alty]

If you can't talk to him about how you feel, there is no relationship, and that's likely why you're having issues.

Many couples have issues with their sex lives, and many couples end up breaking up because they can't discuss those issues with the one person they should be able to talk to, their significant other.

Talk to him. Don't be accusing, or confrontational, just tell him how you feel, ask him how he feels, and talk about a solution you're both okay with.