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    Jan 28, 2014, 10:53 PM
    My girlfriend loves me but likes someone else?
    So my girlfriend and I have been together for like 3 years now and she really loves me I don't doubt that. But a couple of days back she met a guy and she kind of developed a liking for him not as in falling for him but just a like for him and then she got pretty disturbed and confused about the whole situation for almost 3 days.

    They started chatting on messages and also starting sharing a couple of pictures of each other. The guy knows that she has been in a relation and is committed but still a guy is a guy after all.

    So they both had a talk about it and finally she decided not to ruin her relation for another guy and decided to be good friends with the guy. Now she told me that when she was chatting with that guy she just felt it as amazing as she was chatting for me for the first time 3 years back.

    My concern is what is that guy remains in her life as a friend but some day they both start chatting and she falls for him or again likes him over me? What should I do? I can only think of 2 options here.. either to break up with her, or to ask her (requesting) not to talk to that guy here on for our love and relationships sake? Please help me here guys?
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    Jan 29, 2014, 05:30 AM
    How old are you? Have they ever met in person? Do you and your girl hang out a lot, date?
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    Jan 29, 2014, 06:40 AM
    How old are the two of you? You can't ask her not to talk to him but because she still wants to seems strange to me. Has she ever met the guy?
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    Jan 29, 2014, 07:10 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by akki0688 View Post
    So they both had a talk about it and finally she decided not to ruin her relation for another guy and decided to be good friends with the guy. Now she told me that when she was chatting with that guy she just felt it as amazing as she was chatting for me for the first time 3 years back.
    I don't think this is about the other guy. This is about recognizing there is an issue in the relationship.

    It is very easy over the years of a long-term relationship to start taking each other's presence for granted.

    Love is probably the only emotion we have that is expected to last without doing anything to keep it viable. Love is not a perpetual motion emotion. It does take work and energy. How much energy and effort have both of you put into keeping your relationship from stagnating?
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