[Aeryll]

Right, so I have this friend.. And I want to know how to react every time she does this.. She sometimes makes fun of me.. I have a darker shade of skin colour (I'm chinese though) and she has fair skin. She makes fun of my darker skin tone and sometimes she makes fun of some other stuff like my teeth and all..

She was laughing and all so I didn't want to seem like I can't take a joke so I just laughed it off even though I'm hurt. Then all of a sudden yesterday, She posted a status on Facebook saying how we should "never insult/ laugh at someone about things they can't change" and all.. umm.. LIKE.. WHAAT? I felt really pissed at that but since it's a status I didn't want to make her ashamed by commenting about this issue..

Here's the prob, I can't confront her about it. Cause one time.. I told her about it and she goes: "What? i did not say that omg.. Since when did i say that?" I kept telling her that she did and that I remembered or else why would I just randomly accuse her.. then she goes: "NO.. I would never say that OMG OMG when did i ever say that? I WOULD NEVER. So.. I had no proof so I just had to let it slideee :(

I really can't stand her sometimes, she gets on my nerves and when I try to help her (about her attitude and stuff) she thinks she's doing right and keeps defending herself. WHAT SHOULD I DO OR RESPOND THE NEXT TIME? Thanks

[Homegirl 50]

I would not consider her a friend. She is an ignorant and thoughtless person I would not have anything to do with.
She should know how ignorant her comments are. If she doesn't, she is just stupid.
Call her what she is, and ignorant bigot and let her think and say what ever she wants.
Leave her alone. She is not your friend.

[Cat1864]

You need to decide if she is your friend or if you even want to be friends with her. Are there any good qualities that out weigh the negative?

Keep in mind that you cannot change another person. You can change how you deal with them, but if they see nothing wrong in their behavior then they won't change. You can accept her as she is and in the way that you want her to accept you or you distance yourself from her.

If you choose to be her friend, then treat her like a friend and stand up to her when she starts the 'teasing'. Don't laugh it off. Point it out then and there that she is not being nice. If she continues to be mean, walk away and make new friends who won't use putting you down as a way to make themselves feel better.

If you decide being her friend isn't worth it, then you can distance yourself from her. Get involved in activities where you can meet new people and make better friends. If you choose to walk away, leave her alone. When she alienates all of the people around her, she will either change or be alone. That won't be your problem.

Good luck.

[talaniman]

You cannot control what others say or do, but can limit contact with them if they are hypocrites, or any other thing you don't like. Facebook friends are not necessarily true friends. That's for you to decide.

Obviously you both don't share the same sense of humor.

[tickle]

Get enough nerve to tell HER how she offends you.

What do you find so appealing about THIS person that you put up with ABUSE.

[Lyss16]

1: Say it back to her so she knows what its like or...
2: Tell her to back off
3: Ignore and walk away
4: complain and ask why are you teasing me, friends don't do that to each other