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    mamtanuj Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 24, 2014, 02:19 AM
    Bad feeling about bf's ex
    I am in a relationship with this man (divorced) and we are planning to marry soon. I was working in his laptop and felt bore so started looking for some movie. I found an old folder containing the pics of him n his ex-wife. I really felt very bad. I hope he is not aware that he is still having those pics. But I am disturbed after seeing those pics. Whenever I see him, those pics are coming in my mind and I am really feeling possessive that he was with someone else. I know I have to accept this as this is a fact but its really disturbing me and my peace of mind has gone. Should I discuss this with him? Or should let it go by it own with time? M so puzzled and depressed. Please help..!
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    Jan 24, 2014, 04:06 AM
    Do you have any ex's ? What if he got upset every time he thought about you , and thought about ex's.

    I am sorry but you should ask before looking though a boyfriends computer.

    So he kept photos of his ex ? Or where they movies ? Were they naked, explited sex ? Or just photos of them having fun and going out ?

    He had a ex, if he had children with her, you would be seeing her every week maybe, People have past lives. You are going to have to just get used to this.

    I see no reason to confess you were looking though his computer. He has no reason not to have those photos
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    Jan 24, 2014, 08:45 AM
    These are issues you need to deal with yourself as he is doing nothing wrong based on what you said.

    I have pictures of some ex's...so what? I don't see them or talk to them, they are just pictures from my past. That is probably all these pictures are to him as well.

    I also think you went looking to find something....your movie excuse doesn't work for me....so you went snooping and you found something...feels good? Not really, right? Learn from this.
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    Jan 24, 2014, 09:00 AM
    Looking for a movie because you were bored but finding personal pictures? OOOOOKAY. How long have you been together? How long has he been divorced? Kids? Do you know his ex in some way? How?

    Lets get the FACTS to understand your FEELINGS please.
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    Jan 25, 2014, 07:39 AM
    Stop snooping.
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