[MyMy_]

I'm a senior in high school, my boyfriend broke up with me because I will be going to college &many other reasons that he won't tell. We are only one year apart. He just turned 17 on new years &I'm 17 going on 18 the end of this month. Before our relationship I kept telling him we should just be friends because I'm older then him. He kept asking me &i was playing the hard card or hard to get because I was older than him plus I was a busy person at the time with marching band. So the day I told him lets hangout &ill let him know. When I first saw him I connected.&We had a great relationship but now that he has broken up with me I feel lost. I understand why he broke up with me because I'm going to college(well I'm not directly going there, its complicated &I want to work a little bit.&I told him that) but there are other reasons he is hiding from me he told me himself that there are other problems. My heart is broken into pieces &I feel lost. I have friends who I can hangout with or maybe connect with, but I wouldn't be talking much because I'm still shock from this break up. What can I do to get him off my mind? Its hard because I fell in love &he still says he loves me but I'm still confused, lost &don't know what to do with myself. Right now I just want to graduate &start college. Because laying around the house, or going out &not acting like myself isn't going to get me anywhere. &I keep saying to myself I have no date for prom. Can anyone help me here? Like give me some tipa or something because crying all day isn't me I like to be happy.

[smoothy]

Its not really serious... (not at your age anyway... you will see this in due time). Move on... forget him. It doesn't matter who decided it wasn't working. It doesn't matter what the reason is. You will forget him soon enough... it time you will even be laughing about this when you do find there are far better people out there. You will be making new friends in College... and you will be moving on yet again and making another new circle of friends when you get your first real job.

This is but one step in the staircase of life and you will have many more to climb.

Sure it hurts right now... thats normal... you will also get over it and be a stronger person for it.

Lesson #1 is people don't change...they are who they are...though they might pretend otherwise for a short time..they always go back to their original character. So don't waste time trying to change yourself or someone else to force something thats not meant to be....thats like trying to teach a pig to dance....It will fail and it only creates serious frustrations for you...and it annoys the pig.

When its meant to be....neither of you will have to pretend to be something else to not upset each other. When its right you both can be who you want and you each like them to be that way. If its not...you will always butt heads until you eventually break up. If more people learned that lesson the Divorce rate would be 20% of what it is now.


Besides at your age you will be doing a LOT of maturing int he next 5 or so years (as will he).....what you like now and what is important to you now will seem like a joke to you in a few short years. And as you see you are already changing....and going different paths in life.

[Homegirl 50]

Are you upset because you have no date for the prom? What does breaking at the wrong time mean? How long had you dated?