[mr_X]

The site won't let me post without the you have answered this question popping up so imma try one more time.
My girlfriend and I broke up after 2yrs 3 days after that she started hanging out with her baby daddy again a guy who has ruined her life twice already I raised her son he is now 3 and a half she says she already has feelings for the baby daddy but its only been 3 days how can someone get over a 2yr partnership that consisted of me raising her son she says its because her parent want them together because he is starting to be a christian something that I was ready to do yet this guy has lived a life of crime drugs and has made every girl he's dated get an abortion he tried to have her get one but that didn't happen so why would a woman want to get back with a loser? She says she is still in love with me but she says that its not going to work because her son needs his "real" father in his life I feel cold right now I feel like I've lost my son and my heart I tried to tell her that you can have a relationship with your sons father but you don't have to date him especially when you know he IS going to hurt you and your son he has told her he's changed for the 3rd time but we all know he hasn't he has no job,phone,car,and is a heroin addict also he is on probation please help me why would a woman that I love so much and that says she is in love and loves me get with a guy that is lower than dirt? Please help me

[TrueFaith]

Hey :) its hard when we see the people we love.. make mistakes.. but at the end of the day its her life, and if she wants to go back with him sadly.. there is nothing you can do about it.. I think she was seeing him while she was you with.. no one just goes bye bye after 3 days and jump back on the X.. You know in your heart what she was doing... do you really want to be with someone like that?. I know it's a lot easier said than done.. but really do it for yourself.. I know you love her.. but trust me she does not love you.. if she did she would be with you.. she doesn't seem to learn by her mistakes.. now its time for you to cut her out of your life.. if the kid needs its real father let it be.. its not your family and I'm not being funny.. but 2 years is nothing in your life time.. you don't owe her anything.. I'm only being this harsh because I'm so sure she was seeing the baby's dad.. behind your back.. she was testing you 2 out. And she made her choice..
let her deal with the problems that come from that choice.

there are so many other people out there that would love to be with a real man. That is strong enough to take care of someone else kid. And is strong enough to show there real feelings towards a women..

not many of them out there :) and frankly if she doesn't want that. Then its her loss at the end of the day.. and I'm sure she will see that.. the 4th time that guy lets her down.. don't take her BACK! Though.. because it sounds like she will just do the same thing over and over again.

anyway as for the time to heal.. take time to feel upset and sad.. that's a very important part.. then focus on the happy stage of it.. go out have fun go on holiday.. work on things that you left.. girls a part of your life.. there not your life.. I read that from someone on this site.. it was great advice :)

no contact at all.. will make your time to heal so much faster... and with in a few weeks it will get easier and easier.. you haven't lost anything my friend because it was never yours to begin with... make your own family :) with someone who desivers you.

hope you feel better man

Regards