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    the gunslinger Posts: 35, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 9, 2007, 01:46 AM
    My fiancée and moodiness.
    Howdy all! some of you may know me from the women's health forumns,

    My question: My fiancée will sometimes get in a really weird mood. She'll get upset at small things, or unable to make decisions about little things, then get embarrassed and wanting to get away from the situation. This makes it really hard for her to do little things like making decisions during shopping for example, or what she'll want to have to for dinner. Ive tried talking with her about this, and I'm trying to be supportive, but whenever we DO talk about it, it always ends the same way. She pushes me away verbally, although softly, and says shed like to be alone. Now, keep in mind she's not always like this. Sometimes she's fine for up to 3 weeks before it happens, and when it DOES happen its literally as fast as someone flicking a switch. Sometimes it will stay for a day, sometime a week, sometimes an hour. And I can never never NEVER get it out of her, as to what's bothering her. Sometimes she'll cry after this and emerge 2 or 3 hours later completley fine again. Being a guy I'm just REALLY confused about this. Do I be supportive and respect her wishes and give her space? Or should I persuade her to talk about her feelings? She swears up and down and every which way its nothing at all to do with me, which I believe. We've never fought or had any kind of problems. She DID tell me she's done this for a long time. Before we met. Is there anything I can do to help or find out more about this? Or is this just a normal thing that some women do? Need insight! I love her very much and just want to do whatever I can, if anything, to help her.
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    Apr 9, 2007, 01:55 AM
    The way I look at it... you're doing fine... just keep on loving her... she'll get over it someday... Good Luck!
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    Apr 9, 2007, 04:19 AM
    Well, chances are she WON'T just get over it someday.

    I do want you to know that it does not have anything to do with you and you are doing the right thing. However, I see some red flags here as far as her mental and emotional health. You need to get her into a doctor/therapist. One who understands mood disorders. You need to go with her so that you can explain her indecision in depth. Indecision of this sort can be a symptom of some depressive/mood disorders.

    Please make an appointment for the two of you and don't let her give you no for an answer.

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