[tiffany1knisley]

I haven't had communication with my mother in over three weeks. I went to my dads over break and when he got ready to drop me off because I had to be at school the next day. The residence my mother was staying at was vacant she moved and I have had contact with her twice. All she did was yell at me and tell me I wasn't aloud to live with my dad. Yet she had left me there for three weeks for Christmas break. So what did she expect me or my dad to do. Him to drive me 3 hours away to the residence she was staying at now. So my questions are. Is what my mother did child abandonment? Do you think what my mom did is psychotic? And; Should any mother leave her child unaware that she has left and moved states?

[talaniman]

Why not tell us the whole story, and what does your dad says about all this? How old are you anyway?

[Fr_Chuck]

If you are 20 and in university, it is one issue.

If you are 12 it is another. So we need that info.

And yes, your drive driving you three hours to your mothers home is very reasonable, many parents travel much further than that.

No it is not abandonment since she knew where you were, and had left you with your father.

I will assume there are more issue going on for her to do this and not tell you. During the three weeks with father, did you talk to mom on phone,

More info about background please

[Cat1864]

The residence my mother was staying at was vacant she moved and I have had contact with her twice.

tiffany, I, too, am wondering what the full story is.

I highlighted a phrase in your post that is bothering me. You say 'the residence my mother was staying at' instead of 'where we were living' or 'where I was living with my mother' or 'our house/apartment was empty.' Any phrasing that would say it was your home as well your mother's.

You use the term 'staying' instead of 'living'. This makes me wonder if you knew she was looking for another place for you to live/stay. Did you or your father know your living situation was subject to change because she was 'staying' there instead of 'living' there?

You also don't mention your belongings that would have been in the house. Did she take them with her, throw them out or were they left behind for you to collect?

In the communications you say you have had with her since she moved, did she really just yell at you or did a calm discussion become a heated argument?

Do you really know what has been said between your mother and father? Could he be as much to blame for this as you are currently blaming your mother?

Frankly, this is for your father to handle. It is between them and the court system as to where you live.

[talaniman]

I don't see a dad driving 3 hours to drop you off at an empty residence.